Bipolar Type II Support Group

Sometimes I just feel like its just so much, but then i see her smile..and its all ok. My wife had been having a lot of trouble with her emotions and feelings. So we started to see a councler, and wow did we get a suprise. We found out we are co-dependent people and she has since been perscribed meds for bipolar 2, which really do seem to be working but not all the time. She will cycle very fast sometimes up and down 10 times in a day but the meds knock that down to onetime every now and then. It has been a crazy journey for me...she is the love of my life and the mother of my children. Sometimes i think its all my fault she has all these problems....For months she told me she didnt know if she loved me anymore and that she wasnt sure what was going to happen.....then the next day all was good ...this just broke my heart over and over. We seem to heading down the right path now...but it is so hard. She is opening back up I feel the love again and i see that she is becoming truly happy again, I really am having alot of problems now though being away from her when i go to work all i do is think about her and hope she is ok. I fight not to text her, why is it so hard. All I think about is there anything else i need to be doing to help her. I know she is an adult and needs to be responsible for herself. And me doing everything is not going to help in the long run. So any suggestions on what I need to do.

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A really good book you might want to read together is "Loving Someone with Bipolar". It has helped in my relationship and I hope it will in yours too.

That's so sweet to see her smile and it's all okay. You really love your wife I can tell. Now that you know she has bipolar, it probably explains a lot of her past feelings and actions. I'm glad you are both seeing a counselor. This will help you greatly. At least she isn't cycling as much as she used to. It's nice that she and you are heading down the right path now. You need to let her be her. I can tell you love her, but you don't want her to be able to breathe. You are coddling her. You should be able to go to work without worrying about her so much. You are right, she is an adult. She should be fine. Support her, but give her space, she'll need that. What she doesn't need is you suffocating her all of the time. I'm happy to hear she is opening back up. I'm happy you joined the group. Welcome. Ask us for help and you shall receive it! Take care.

Thanks for being brave enough to share your feelings! Another good book to read is "Codependent No More" which talks about how to disentangle yourself from being responsible for your partner's emotions. Doesn't mean you can't support her and love her as you clearly do; it just means you can get a bit of healthy distance and perhaps get the self-care you need to. Good luck!