Bipolar Support Group

so tiff, are you still depressed about the problems you were having with your friends who were being so shitty last time we talked or are you just in a general, no reason for it depression now?

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Sorry I snuck off, was dealing with some issues.

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i'm depressed about my current situation at home mostly.

hi, red. tiffany and i are talking about how much you can get hurt and how dependent you can become on other people when you're a "wear your heart on your sleeve" kind of person. i have a feeling you fall into that category. how do you protect yourself and keep yourself from getting hurt. or haven't you figured out how to do it yet either?

probably a really dumb question, tiff, but how can you get out of your situation at home or is it one of those things where you're just trapped?

i'm trapped right now.

unemployed, broke, etc.

no way to move

no job i'm qualified for that would make it possible to save up enough money right now.

the job market is shit too.

Ladies, the heart is a resiliant but fragile thing. The problem I have is that when I do let someone in close (usually takes a long time to reach this level in person due to being hurt way too many times) they just hurt me even more deeply. When we let people into that level they know exactly how to hurt us in the worse ways.

my problem red, is i let them in too soon. i'm too open and too trusting because i'm dependent on them for happiness. i dont get the support i need at home so i seek it in others.

i was trapped in a bad marriage like that tiff. it sucks. it's like playing a waiting game and doing everything you can to make things better when there's just not a whole lot you can do. sorry you're there.

i know what you mean, red. i tend to let people get too close when i let them get close. that's part of my problem. i let them know me and then, just like you said, they know just how to hurt me and they do, even when they say they're not doing it on purpose. on purpose or not, it doesn't hurt any less.

My upbringing was in a very anti-social family. I carried that well into my adult life with a need for others to make me happy brought on by the lack of heathy social interaction. The hardest thing for me to learn was that I am the only one that can make me happy. For a long time I depended on my wife for may happiness (co-dependancy), needless to say that that and bipolar did not mix well. I found out the hard way that she could not fulfill that role, durring an extreme manic period. Now we have a happiness togther that goes beyond the need for each other... now we want each other.