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My bipolar diagnosis does play a small part in this, but I'm mostly just baffled, bewildered, and belittled. I'm really not sure what to do with this situation.

I met a bloke less than a year ago, and I never really spent much time around him until recently. When I just saw him at social functions, he seemed nice enough. However, I have a summer class with him (summer college courses ). He seems to be completely detached from reality. He goes on long, almost violent, rants about people (genuinely nice or non-threatening people), and then he admits the next day that they're nice. Also, he talks about violence a lot as a just way to achieve goals. Just tonight, he asked me to commit academic dishonesty by giving him my work, and then I received very fierce verbal abuse. It was some pretty rotten stuff. Anyway, I think he's incredibly unstable, and he knows a lot of stuff about me (diagnosis, history, etc). I didn't do anything wrong, so there's no need to come to terms with that, but I'm somewhat anxious about his behavior and how he could impact me. He's assumed a lot of things from stuff he's heard about me, and that could be just as damaging.

I don't really know what I'm looking for besides perhaps reassurance and the chance to get that out. Whew.

to me - it seems easy just get out and get out now, but im not in your situation!!!

I think what you really want ask your self will he turn on you !!!! What is positive about this man and does he know is ways upset you ....

No man is worth your own safety or health!!!

Wish for the best and pray that he is blessed. Start distancing yourself from this individual. If you have around negative people, negative things will happen. Keep him at a far distance.

Don't make any sudden moves. Slowly move away backwards , keeping your eye on him without making eye contact. Once out of sight keep moving, but don't run. Move quickly and aviod that area and warn others.

Predators and rabid animals are not to be taken lightly.

This also works for people who act like animals. He needs help but you aren't in a place to take this guy on yet.

Post edited by: cptblack, at: 06/15/2010 05:05 AM

My therapist once told me to look at life like a target. You put only the people closest to you in the bullseye and the others go in the outer rings. I have a lot of people in the farthest, outermost ring where they belong. I only let people into the bullseye after I know I can trust them and that takes a while. Needless to say there are very few in that spot. Make sense? Hope so. Take Care T.

I have a very small bullseye and very few people there. A few in the other rings and a LOT out near Mars!

I find it hard to assure you about staying near him. He sounds very unstable and not medicated. I understand if you are trying to help him, but if he will not seek medical treatment, then your efforts are for naught. If I were in your shoes, I would work carefully to sever ties, which admittedly won't be easy being in the same class together. And I would never meet him anywhere other than public places. I am so sorry you are in this position. I hope this can resolve safely.

I would feel threatened by him personally and sever ties with him. He seems like he's not on medication and could even do some harm to someone. Asking you to cheat by giving your work to him and saying awful things to you is not right. It could only get worse with time. I also see him as a trigger for you. I would stay away from him and if he gives you any grief seek the authorities. I hope you can remove him from your life very soon. Stay strong. Hugs

I think I need to clarify a thing or two. One, this wasn't a romantic/sexual thing. He's gay, and I only met him because I was hanging out with some of my (million or so) gay male friends. Just thought I'd throw that out there since it seemed like at least one person might have gotten that impression. Also, I don't want him in my life. I just don't want to sever anything so abruptly that he goes off or seeks to make life more difficult for me. I'm mostly worried about him leaking various truths and untruths about me. One of my friends directed me to something he said on facebook shortly after I denied him: "You would think that the fatter chicks with low self-esteem would be a little nicer; granted, it's accepted reality that they get by on personality and intelligence. They aren't." This is one of the NICEST things he's said in the past 24 hours.

How much did u share with him? I don't ever tell people any thing about my illness or my issues. Hopefully he will seek help and u will slowly fly out of the picture. If that's what you want. Take care