Bipolar Support Group

MY STORY IS REALLY LONG, BUT I WILL TRY TO SHORT IT UP.

I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A BIPOLAR PERSON. WHAT HE DID IN THE RELATIONSHIP WAS TO PLAY HIS PARENTS AGAINST ME.HE DID THIS BEFORE HE WENT FULL BLOWN. HE TOOK EVERY

AVENUE TO DESTROY RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE WHOM I COULD TURN TO FOR HELP, BY BAD MOUTHING ME, AND MAKING ME LOOK CRAZY TO THEM BY TELLING LIES ABOUT ME. HE IS A GREAT MANIPULATOR. SINCE HE DID THAT I BECAME HIS FAMILIES ESCAPE GOAT. THEN IT WAS HIS TURN TO GO FULL BLOWN ONTO ME. ACCUSING ME OF THINGS THAT WERE DELUSIONAL. MAKING ME THINK I WAS GOING CRAZY. THEN HE WOULD STOP TALKING WITH ME FOR MONTHS( AND I MEAN MONTHS).THEN HE WOULD DO THE PUSH AND PULL DANCE. ALSO CAME THE SELF- SABATOGE.

IN THIS HE WOULD ACCUSE ME OF SEEING SOMEONE. NOW DON'T

FORGET HE WOULD NOT TALK TO ME FOR MONTHS SO I BECAME

FRIENDS WITH A MAN(JUST FRIENDS). HE CAUGHT WIND OF IT.

AND NO HE ACCUSES ME OF CHEATING.AND NOW EVERYONE THINKS ITS ME WITH THE PROBLEM. I GET SET UP ALL THE TIME. OH YES HE IS ALSO A ALCOHOLIC. AND AT TIMES HE PROJECTS HIS MENTAL ILLNESS ON TO ME. THEN I AM IN A 'NO WIN' SITUATION.

WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 YEARS AND THIS STARTED LAST YEAR. WHAT AM I TO DO??????

Is he a recovering alcoholic? And is he on meds for the bipolar? These are questions that will hold the answer to your problem. Drinking and bipolar don't mix. I know...I have bipolar disease and when I drink I am mean and angry, delusional and not very nice to be around. I made the choice to be sober. And my moods are much more managable.

You ask what to do?? My answer is do what is best for you. You cannot change his behavior. You only have control over your own situation. Don't worry about what he tells others. If they are smart they will know he is not telling the truth.

We are here for you to vent....and if it were me in your situation I would find someone who treated me better than that.

Two is to make the decision to leave and make a better life for yourself.

You had nothing to do with what happened to him when he was a child. That is not your problem. It is his. He owns that problem.

You don't need him to validate you. Do you? So it really doesn't matter what he thinks or his mother thinks. Sounds like a head game to me...but, I don't have the whole picture. Only you know what is best for yourself.

BUT HE CAN HOLD IT INSIDE UNTIL WE ARE ALONE AND HE SAY EVIL AND I MEAN EVIL THINGS. I ALSO FOUND OUT SINCE HE HAS BIPOLAR,HE TELLS PEOPLE THAT I AM BIPOLAR BECAUSE HE IS EXPERIENCE

I'd bet in your case, people who really really know him will know the truth. You have been with him 6 yrs, others have known him his whole life already have the picture, you can be sure of that. Especially if he treated his ex the same way.

With my ex, even my sister in law told me that another brother told her that their Dad had told him when they were younger he thought my ex was a little 'funny' in the head. This is his DAD! talking about him to his other kids! Did he take him to a doctor? NO. My ex told me when he was young & raged his father spit in his face. Wow - what a cure!

That is why I had put up with so much crap from my ex. I knew he had never really gotten the help he needed when he was young. He also never had terrible symptoms for years at a time. Ever since he hit 50 though, it was all downhill (a lot of self medicating with beer too has made things even worse)

You are not alone. Many people have been thru similar situations and we believe you. Don't worry about what others think anyway. Take care of yourself

Post edited by: sky, at: 05/20/2008 22:30

Post edited by: sky, at: 05/20/2008 22:34

He is projecting when he calls you bipolar. People do that...it is part of being sick.

You are hurting. Take time to let yourself heal...I bet you will feel better when you are away from all of this drama.