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ymg3369
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Ok now I am different here - I want to suport my friend anyway they need and they just pushed me away - I am sad and struggling becasue I really love her and want her to be well. No one else in her group of frined and family understands what she is going through - and they demand and stress here alot. |
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norma
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Wecome ymg, we are here to support you. Glad you joined. After all you are the one who has to live with your decision. "In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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taliestar
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I just joined, so have have no bio info or picture, but as soon as I read your post, I knew I had to reply. Hit home.......hard. I am "high functioning" as well and about a year & a half ago I lost my absolute best friend. She just got fed up one day. I guess I can't really blame her after all the great & exciting plans we made when I was manic never came to be once depression set in.....or that at times it takes me a week to return her call..... I do wish she could have understood. I miss her. I think the fact that we work, have families and leave what appears to be a "normal" life really confuses them. Ya kow??? Maybe they just forget???? Thanks for letting me vent. This is my 1st post/reply & it felt great! BTW, READ THE LIST OF FAMOUS PEOPLE! It definitly gave me a little boost   Talie
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kimminentdanger
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Hi talie! Thanks for sharing your story. I truly believe that although our non-bipolar friends can't possibly understand the full extent of what it means to live with this disorder as a part of our essence, they do know why we aren't returning their calls or sticking to our plans. They may not APPRECIATE it, but they know why it's happening. And that is part of the reason we call them friends..... Feel free to vent any time you feel the need!!!! : ) "Insanity destroys reason, but not wit." - Nathaniel Emmons
"Been a bad (girl) since diapers and Gerbers; my first words were bleep bleep and curse curse." - Eminem |
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otterlover1234
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I'm the one who wrote "Losing old friends because of ups and downs." WOW. I can't believe how many of us feel the EXACT SAME WAY. Yes I am "yelling." I'm actually crying for joy. At least now I understand. Maybe I can explain it to my friends better. And I don't feel as alone as I did. Maybe, just maybe, I can even say no or maybe to my friends the next time they ask me to do something, whether I'm manic or not. Meeting you all has been one of the best things that has happened to me in awhile |
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kimminentdanger
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Hi Otter! I'm happy to see that you're YELLING and crying for joy!!! I just pulled the ol' said yes when I should have said no trick. I guess I'm of the opinion that saying yes before you realize that you really meant no is not good, but it's better than saying "FU*K off - I'm not going to your stupid "whatever you're invited to"!.. Now piss off asswipe!" I've been known to respond that way!! lol lol So now I'm stuck going to another opera because I don't think before I speak!!! HA HA HA HA "Insanity destroys reason, but not wit." - Nathaniel Emmons
"Been a bad (girl) since diapers and Gerbers; my first words were bleep bleep and curse curse." - Eminem |
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otterlover1234
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Kimm, well for starters I would pay good money to go to an opera, but that's just me. lol My husband, tho he's pushin' 50, perfers head bangin' music. It's a mystery to me. I do that all the time. I canceled plans this weekend. I'm so tired. What a woman has to do to just get by! Dishes, laundry and such, all in the name of love! lol.
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kimminentdanger
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You said it sister. "Insanity destroys reason, but not wit." - Nathaniel Emmons
"Been a bad (girl) since diapers and Gerbers; my first words were bleep bleep and curse curse." - Eminem |
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zinnia
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you guys are so brave. i never tell anyone. i feel like i can't because i live in a small town and my job depends on people thinking i'm sane. so, other than my family, no one knows and i don't really have any friends. you're brave for telling and at least trying to help people understand you. Well behaved women rarely make history.
Thou canst not disturb a flower without the troubling of a star...from "Troubling a Star", by Madelaine L'Engle...we all affect one another by our words and actions...it is our choice whether to do so purposefully and positively, or carelessly and hurtfully...may we all bring to one another the peace that we seek...
"if you want others to be happy, practice compassion. if you want to be happy, practice compassion" the Dahli Laama
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otterlover1234
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Zinnia, I can relate to what you are feeling. I get mad sometimes because I'm not "normal." But I dealt with my mother being bipolar, VERY bipolar. One of my first memories is helping her repaint our "very orange" living room before my dad got home. She had a manic moment and decided to paint. Then she came down and realized my dad wouldn't appreciate it. So here are her two preschool aged children helping her frantically paint over it. I don't remember if we got it done or not. My point is, I'm living the best life I can. I take meds, get treatment and I TRY, I try so hard, to be the best I can. I haven't told anyone at work either. I have friends I can confide in, to a point. My husband is really supportive. But you have to know you are the best you can be. Our problem isn't our fault. It's chemical in our brains, and that's no different from being diabetic or something. So remember that. It's important that you feel good about yourself. Treat yourself well. Pracice compassion for yourself too. Somewhere I read a list of a bunch of famous people who were thought to be mentally ill. Also bipolars tend to be creative and smart. We get a lot done during some of our "highs." I know I do. Everyone just gets honked off when I'm tired and going low. We're here for you. |
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