I'm worried

With bipolar, ALWAYS expect the unexpected. That is what makes the life of the non-bipolar loved one, so difficult. Sounds like his meds need some adjusting. Does he talk with a therapist? How often does he see his psychiatrist and have his meds reviewed? These are very important questions that you should be aware of. You need to read as much as you can about bipolar disorders, cause a life with him will be impossible if you are not aware of what to expect. It is a mean, nasty, selfish disorder, em, and you will have a mighty rough row to hoe if you stay with him. (should he decide to come back). You, however, cannot help him want to be stable. You can't fix him and you certainly can't argue with his logic, no matter how unrealistic it may sound to you. At this point....DO NOT PUSH HIM!!!!!!! He is an adult and is telling you he needs some self time, to think. Do not intrude on his solitude......I assure you it will only piss him off if he is somewhat unmedicated. In your post I noticed that you put him first, before your boys in the sentence about loving them. It's time to knock that off, it's probably why the elder boy is cold toward him....he took his mom away from him. Right now I would give every free moment you have to those boys. You will change nothing with BF until he has taken responsibility for his own mental health.

Gloria

I can tell you this from my experience, I often just want to run off or away from stuff and people. I also agree with Norma, it does sound like the meds. I wonder if he is having delusions again, and maybe he is afraid he may do something to harm himself or someone and is trying to not have that kind of thinking around the kids. If that is true to any extent i have to believe he is still in some kind of control.

I know you are hurting and trying to tell him how much you are hurting my not be the best thing, if he beleives he is trying to hide it from the kids. He may feel like a failure in some way.

I know it's easy for me to sit here and say just give it some time but as long as you can keep in touch with his father maybe it will all come together soon. Has he been seeing a psychatrist? If so you or someone needs to contact the doc and let him know what's going on. Maybe even a trip to the hospital will help. I'm just throwing things out there for you.

I just know when i need to get away nothing stops me, not family, not job, not anything. But i always feel worse for doing it after i've done it and someone has found out.

please if you need to talk just pm me i'm ususally up all night. i will be glad to try and help or just listen to you, for as long as you need me to.

Welcome. I am glad you are here. I am sure you can see there are alot of wonderful people here.

I have bipolar, and have a son who is, too. My son was on Respirdal.

If your S/O missed his meds, that could be the reason he is acting this way.

That could make him unstable. He is taking an antipsychotic. That means he must have psychosis. I have that, too. So if he is unstable he could be in a bad situation, and doesn't want you and your kids to be effected by it. I used to hide out in my dark bedroom, when, I was having psychosis. I was hearing voices, and was really paranoid. It is a horrible place to be.

So give him some space. Have his dad tell him you love him, and that you will be there for him when he is ready.

In the meantime Come here, and hang out with us, ...LOL

Glory is right about having a chat with the boys about this disorder, they are old enough to know, while they might not understand it all, it will help them to realize that he is runs away or does something out of character that it is not their fault. There are books and websites I am sure for education children on their parents disorders,

Spend your time right now, taking care of you and the boys.