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dixie

Dating online isn't all that abnormal now a days..seems to be the rage as a matter of fact, while I am bipolar, my husband and I met online, as I tended to isolate most of the time. We met on the precursor to the forums like this one, it was referred to as a board, that one was for sober, single alcoholics, we both are in recovery/recovered, I have 15 years and he has 10. When it turns dangerous is when they don't take time really to get to know the other, and don't take all precautions when going to meet, such as making sure someone knows where they are at, making sure they have access to money to get home on, etc..

Before flying out to meet my husband for the first time, we had talked on the computer and on the phone for almost a year, I had what is called a e-ticket for my plane, so if he even took my "plane ticket" I just had to get to a computer and print off another one.. I had money in the bank, to get a room, rent a car, whatever I needed to do, I also had a picture of what he was suppose to look like, my family knew exactly where I was going, the name, address and phone number of the person I was meeting...etc..

As a adult, unless you can prove that she is a danger to herself, there isn't much that you can do, and the only way you can help her get help is either by force or by willing participation.. from the sounds of it, she isn't willing..

I may have been misunderstood by what I wrote first on the forum about the internet dating. I certianly didn't mean that it is solely a bipolar trait. I apologize if I came across with that meaning. My daughter Jane, (not her real name) as far as I know, had not been corresponding with the guy she met. No one knew where she was until she came home. We did talk with her on the phone a couple of time while she was gone, but she wouldn't tell anyone where she was or that she was with anyone. We did not know until she came back from a several hour trip that she had even been communicating with anyone else in any fashion. A big problem is that she thinks it was perfectly safe. I realize that she is an adult and is responsible for her own choices, but she has small children to think about. I know she loves them, but from passed experience, I know what she can be like when she is in a manic episode.

She is at least taking the kids to school and daycare and going to work. I talked with her briefly today just to check on her (no pressure or nagging). I did not mention anything except to see if she and the kids were okay. She sounded fine. I will check with her again in a little while. We plan on getting the kids tomorrow. They have children's choir practice, so either my husband or myself will talk with her while they are in practice.

Thanks again for your concern. I really do like this forum.

dixie