Bipolar Support Group

Hi all, I met a girl several months ago who has bipolar, she is on meds and seems to be quite switched on about her condition, everything was going great up until about two weeks ago,she is now in a depressed cycle, she doesn't text or phone me back, everyday she says she will see me tomorrow, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet though. She says she doesn't want me to see her that way, as she will sit and stare blankly. I want to be there for her but she will not let me in. Unfortunately I sort of accused her of getting up to no good, I think this sent her over the edge. she started to get distant , I automatically assumed the worst, but I suppose this was the start of the cycle. I could really do with some advice please folks, how is the best way to deal with it, I've read so many horror stories online recently about bipolar relationships, can relationships work? anyway sorry to drone on, the last couple of weeks have been an emotional roller coaster.

its really hard for the partners,and they know that too,but ive been married 5 years now ,and its been perfect but it demands more from both of you to try to find that middle path.its hard to give really good advises because everyones depression and manic cycles are so different.so my opinion is that it needs lots of talking,when shes well enough to want it .i think sometimes ,that because i love my husband so much, i really dont want him to experience these things or see me depressed.i see that pain in his eyes even he knows its nothing to do with him and its not his fault .and he does know that because we had so many long convos about it ,but when im not depressed i try to make it up for him and we take everything out of those better days but it really hurts me to see him hurt .here is also groups for bipolar spouses in active relationships ,so you might find great answers from there.you just need lots of patience and lots of talking .its hard but nothing can come between true love .(hehehe sounds cheesy but its true)

There are two groups that you may find more helpful:

Bipolar spouses - http://www.mdjunction.com/bipolar-spouses

Spouses of bipolar in active relationships - http://www.mdjunction.com/spouses-of-bipolar-in-active- relationships

I have to agree with the other post. Can a relationship with someone bipolar work? Absolutely ...but it takes alot of work and lots of patience ....my hubby and I have been together for 6yrs and he still struggles with me when I have my highs and lows...but when im that frame of mind the best thing to do is give her space..she doesn't want u to see her like that bc its a bit embarrassing so I can see why she may say that just let her know ur there for her when she's ready to open up

My best friend is in the depressed cycle right now. He got so bad he got suicidal and will be spending a month or so in the ward. He doesn't want me to call or visit him. It is KILLING me not to pick up that phone but I know I just need to wait this out. My fear is that our extreme closeness will start to loosen overtime through this. It is hard. So very hard. I've been super close to him for a year and have seen a lot of his different cycles including three massive manic episodes.

Thanks for all your advice folks,

I have bipolar and so does my best friend. It's important that you do not take this depression personally. My friend and I will tell eachother when we're low.I make sure to tell other people that I am close with that I'mnot in a very social mood.