Bipolar Support Group

My Boyfriend has been diagnosed with bipolar and I do believe he is bipolar but could there be something more than bipolar? He is always trying to hurt me and on purpose. The reason i know it is intentional is because he later says i told you not to do that or whatever. A good example would be tonight. I called him on the phone like 30 min ago. He told me his brother called and he was just about to call me. He started talking about what he did today and then wanted to get off the phone maybe 10 min later. I asked him what his brother said and what he wanted to call me and tell me and he said to let him get off the phone. I said just let me know what he said and he started cursing me out and said he is cheating on me. I said are you serious? I was not trying to sound upset because this is typical of him to say something like that to me and then days later profess it was said intentionally to hurt me. He kept laughing in this annoying high pitched laught that he does that is so fake. I kept asking and he said yeah so it sound more like oh yeeeeeeeah. I must of said Are you serious 3 times and he kept laughing and saying he was providing me with names and saying he's been doing it for awhile. Then i lost it and hung up because i started sobbing. I am pregnant btw with his kid. So anyway he called back to yell at me for hanging up and said he is going to bed. I asked him if he is cheating on me to not call and he said Im not cheating you .... and continued to call me names. Is this typical bipolar behavior?

I can relate in a some ways to your post. When I got pregnant with my first child, my boyfriend became emotionally abusive to me. This went on for 14 years in our almost 15 years together. Now he tells me that after I got pregnant he knew he had me so it didn't matter how he treated me. To his mind, I was stuck with him. He was right, I didn't think I could live without him, we were going to have a baby together. He wanted to marry me, he "loved" me. I thought bring with him was my only choice. It wasn't, I could have taken what I thought was the hard road and saved myself all the emotional abuse, my children from his hatefulness and controlling attitude. It may have been a better road. But he isn't bipolar, I am. So I don't believe that his actions are typical bipolar behavior, I believe it is typical jerk behavior.You really need to do some soul searching right now and see if your willing to subject yourself to this kind of abuse, and think about the baby. Maybe put some space between you and tell him to get treatment. Maybe he will change for the better, but if you just let him off the hook and deal with this abuse he will continue to treat you this way. I really hope for the best in your situation.

No, I don't think in general it is, though people can get angry while manic, his behavior isn't angry per se. I agree with Silverclaw, he is being a jerk and is treating you badly and it has nothing to do with bipolar. People who are abusive tend to stay that way and it can escalate unless they recognize it and seek help for it and it doesn't sound like he's inclined to do that. He's too busy jerking your chain. You have to decide if this is a relationship you want to continue in knowing it may not change. I would make getting help a condition of continuing the relationship. Keep in mind your child will be exposed to abuse if nothing is done. Just my opinion.

Thank you for your responses. I knew there was something more going on. I have an aunt that has Bipolar Disorder and she is a very kind and loving person.

It is a shame that a man can treat a woman this way. I pray that you soul search why you would let someone do this to you. I wish the best for you and your unborn child. And as others have commented your child will be in this type of environment if you choose to stay with him. Children learn about how to form relationships from their parents and may think this kind of behavior is ok. Best wishes to you