Bipolar Support Group

What do i do. My wife is BP. I love and care for her very much. I have been around the block looking for wisdom, dont really like the way David Oliver 'sells' his care, and i find what amounts to nothing i am not experiancing for my self any way. Forgetting the BP, she is a brilliant, beautiful, extremly clever woman with alot of good friends. There have been institutionalisations, Lithium and therapy. At the moment she is ok, although sometimes it is difficult to truly tell the difference between BP and personality. I do want to be with her, but sometimes the quirky behaviour proves irrepribly damaging and forces my love for her as a wife to wither. I believe the so titled 'stigma' that is associated with this condition is actualy borne out of utter confusion. When i ever try to talk to people that dont live with it, because they dont see that much of it, they dont understand how i could really have a problem with someoneone who is soooooo happy and alive. And then therefore i end up being judged on what i am saying as bad, therefore i do not speak to people. Even close friends of both of ours still sometimes struggle, unless they encounter thier own difficult to explain moment.

She is a good woman, i am a good man.

LOL

You sound like a very good man. And your wife is a lucky gal. Yes, sometimes our quirks, I have lots of them, are difficult to separate from symptoms of bipolar disorder.

In my humble opinion it is part of the entirety of our person. I sometimes jokingly accuse my husband of being a closet bipolar. He is quiet and moody occasionally. And he does things that hurt my feelings. Never yells but, retreats into his own world. I feel left out. LOL LOL

It seems in a marriage it is a lot of acceptance of the person, whether they have bipolar disorder or not. As for acceptance of society for the bipolar disorder, that will come with time. Just like anything people don't understand, they are afraid. Fear breeds ridicule and shame. Both things that can be overcome with knowledge and compassion.

Glad you found us. Stick around. There are a lot of us here with bipolar and who have loved ones with it.