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sadlock Posts: 55
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Ben, I am just now getting out (almost there) from a depressive episode. My husband was wonderful and was there for me if I needed to talk or cry or even just to sit with me as I stared off into nothing. He made sure I was not alone because he was concerned about suicide, which was definitely swirling around in my head. He took care of the kids and the house and the bills, etc., etc., because I was non-functional. And that was the best thing he could do, just be there and take as much of the load off as possible. It was not easy for him, but he did it anyway, and I love him more than ever for that. Just make sure your fiance is getting or taking her meds so that there's an end in sight to the depressive episode, because sinking that low can truly be dangerous for her. My episode lasted a solid month before the meds kicked in (I'm taking Lamictal and Lithium), but they did kick in and they did work and I am feeling better. Does your fiance have a good psychiatrist she trusts? If not, I think that's the best thing she could do (or you could even help her find one if necessary and get her to the appts if she can't do it herself). Bipolar can unfortunately be a debilitating disease and can make a person completely unable to function at times, so you may have to handle things she just can't do until the meds start working. I believe it takes a strong person to do all that, like my husband, and it seems to me that, with you're seeking out this support group and trying to find out how to help your fiance, you must be a very strong and admirable person. Don't forget to take care of yourself during this time as well. Terri
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