My husband

It is true that we who are BP often have a hard time realizing it when we are being horrible and hurtful. It's best to arm yourself with knowledge. A great book is The Bipolar Survival Guide. The more you know, the more likely it will be that he might listen. I hope it doesn't take a major episode to clue him in...it may be. But for now, take care of yourself. Be good to yourself.

Does he admit that he is depressed or mentally hurting? That may be the first step. Well, we are here for you. Keep us posted. Peace and hugs, peach

Thank you so much for the support. He does admit that he is fatigued and depressed, but he blames it all on his work and believes there is something medically wrong. He's been tested for testosterone and he is borderline line but says he is depressed and fatigued because he has low testosterone. Yes it is low, but just barely.

I am also studying to be a personal trainer and I've tried to encourage him to exercise, just a couple of minutes per day and when he is rational (which is rarely), he admits he should and it would help, but it NEVER comes to fruition.

I'm so stressed, I'm loosing my hair and I cannot keep my complexion clear. I have severe gastric inflamation, and it use to only act up occassionally, now, it is a constant.

He has continuous and ongoing episodes and does not admit to any of them. He apologizes constantly, and follows the apology with "but".....

This time when he text me with "....you cannot tell but I am very sorry about these last few days...." my reply to him was "No, I cannot because I hear it alot and I love you." He then responded with "Very well then - do what you have to do - love you and I will call you when I get to *****"

He is mean, hurtful, calculating, manipulative and down right ugly to me and everyone here. When he gets around his friends (which is also rarely), he puts on this act and seems to be happy-go-lucky and jokes around and laughs.

I love him, just don't like him sometimes.

Thank you again for your support.

Take care,

crig

P.S. I did get the book and am currently sharing it with his sister who also recognizes that he is bipolar.

Take care of you, and do what you have to do, to find the peace and happiness you deserve.

Carmen

You are doing the right thing coming here and growing a community of support.

Do you think it might be something else? Often people are diagnosed as bp, but have thyroid problems. It would be good to see if his md could screen him for this. Maybe if he is bp this would be a door to understanding from a professional medical doctor. He will also be able to explain how it takes a tremendous toll on you. Then perhaps he'll see and do something about it. If not, well, who do you love, Baby? One cannot love those who will not let themselves be loved.

Keep us posted?

MsBImbo