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My diagnosed Bipolar partner has started to channel her anger and rage at me for no apparent reason. She will constantly bring up one negative moment in our relationship and keep on using it to argue or "start a fight with me".

I feel that sometimes she is trying to scare me, but I always try to calm the situation and tell her I don't want to argue.

She also tends to do this on days she knows I would want to be in a good mood for, like me nephews birthday party. So it seems she is trying to disrupt my plans or me being happy?

Any advice ?

She also blames me for everything like why she couldn't attend my nephew party.

All things that are really down to her and her actions become my fault even though she has brought it onto herself.

Are you looking for advice? The only good option I can think of is her seeing a shrink and doctor regularly to get her mood swings under control. I speak for myself here, but I think it can be very difficult for BP people to know what they really want. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hide effect.

Other option I can think of is be patient and deal with it or end it. Kinda sad and to the point... Also, for some reason it's easiest to take things out on the ones we love the most (again I speak for myself).

buckle up .. mood swing time . get her to see a doc like right now . good luck.

i also have been lashing out kinda like that ...but i dont meen the things isay to her ..i just cant help it somtimes ..moods...but ya gotta just work thre it... been together for 10 years now..its hard for sure.

I think you should see a therapist to work these issues....one, to make sure you're not co-dependent, and two, to help you deal with her episodes with your self esteem intact, and three, so you don't end up resenting her. You seem like you could use a non-biased ear to talk to, and a therapist could probably provide you with some immediate relief.

I do the same thing to my husband especially with things that will cause me high stress ( I normally end up going and having a decent time) but I start fights for no reason yell scream and then don't want to hear reasoning ... he will not want to fight ... and I will keep it going.

What he normally does is let me throw my "grown up temper tantrum" and then when my mood changes is there for me when I realize I was being a witch with a capital b and accepts my appologies and goes on with it. But I can only imagine how hard it is on him!

I do the same thing to my bf. For me, those impulses to pick fights, blame feelings, ect.. comes from anxiety. I feel i need to pick those fights to resolve the situation, even if there isn't one, there always feels like there is. the only way i have been able to get those impulses under control in=s by being medicated, and trying to learn how to deal with stress and anxeity better, also learning how to identify when its happening.

Messy187 is your partner under Psychiatric care? A person can have empathy and understanding for someone that may be acting out of character because of their BiPolar, but it doesn't take away their hurt feelings.

Ideally if she would attend couples counseling that would be great. If not I think it would be beneficial for you to go on your own. I can recommend an excellent book "Loving Someone with BiPolar Disorder" by Julie Fast. Take Care. Beth