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Dysfunctional home environment



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10/11/2007 08:48
damselndistress
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How many of you have physically dysfunctional homes because of this disorder?

Like we went without a bathroom sink for 5 years. I tried to get help in to install one and my husband threatened me if I did. (He turned into the devil and told me if my Dad installed it I could sleep with him too)

We finally have a sink but I had to have a knock down drag out fight with my husband to get him to put one in. Then he thought I should pay for everything to boot.

Very frustrating indeed.

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10/11/2007 09:23
heatherr
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absolutely disfunctional. Before I met him, I used to have a structured home..dinner time, bedtimes, family time and usually scheduled weekends. If work needed done, we just did it. We had rules, we planned vacations, we spent time with our kids. Its like pulling teeth for me to keep those basic things together with him. So many projects sit undone, so much chaos and unorganization. He wants it to be different, he just cant do it and if I do it alone or have others help me, he feels I have excluded him. (yet he doesnt offer to help) He makes so many empty promises to the kids, and I end up breaking my back trying to keep them.
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10/11/2007 16:42
jodie1973
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Yes! Now that my husband and I are separated, I am fixing many, many things that just went wanting before. He would always be mad that he couldn't fix things because we didn't have the money....but things are getting fixed now and I have very little money.

No dinners at the table, no playtime with the kids, no family time at all, no being able to count on clean underwear or that dished might get done within 48 hours....he would just move through space doing what his impulses told him...otherwise he didn't move at all.

He was always angry...whether anyone did anything at all, he was mad. I think he would just run through a list of possible reasons to be mad and go with it. The sucking fear I used to feel walking in the door at night after work, wondering if he was manic, knowing he was angry about something and wanted to treat me like crap stuck on his shoe....me and the kids.

He also ran through jobs and "careers" like oilet paper. He's back to school now, going to be an EMT, and he just got his CNA license this spring. He always has a tremendous amount of enthusiasm when something is new and exciting, and then as soon as it gets difficult, as soon as there is a whisper of doubt in his head about something he starts to blame othere people at the job, or at the school for causing him to be unhappy ro fail and off he goes onto another, greener pasture.



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