DOES MY ALMOST 7 YR OLD HAVE A DIORDER????

Post edited by: southern10, at: 05/17/2008 16:18

If I were you, I'd start therapy first...at least 5-10 visits first. Have them do a psych evaluation - at most I'd bet you may be looking at ADD and not a mood issue, but you never know. My research (not comprehensive, but enough for me to feel comfortable quoting) indicates a. BP and ADD show a HIGH likelihood to be heredity b. ADD kids have a 4-14% chance of developing BP and c. BP kids have a 80-94% chance of developing ADD.

I really wish I could stop by, spend a day and help you learn how to address each behavior. Might suggest looking up a book by Dr. John Rosemond - he's got some great philosophies on child-rearing that help day-to-day.

Be firm, but loving. Have consistent consequences for behavior. Reward good behavior with your words and time and not tv or toys. Ideally, you should be rewarding good behavior more than delivering consequences for unacceptable behavior.

Use catch-phrases like 'that behavior is not okay.

Try to say no without saying no. Try 'yes, you can have ice cream tomorrow.' 'Yes, that toy is great! Let's put it on your birthday list.'

Pray.

I agree with the others whom have mentioned the importance of setting boundaries. It might help to talk to your daughter about behaviors that are acceptable and not, perhaps make a list together. Then, when she acts up, remind her of the list and things you agreed to.

I also feel that sharing special activities as a reward should be more successful than punishment. Structure and knowing what to expect are extremely important. For example, in the morning you may want to go through the day's activites so she will know what to expect.

Definitely, get her into a counselor to see what they suggest. Some of my former students were very successful with getting into martial arts. It might seem strange, but it taught them self discipline/control.

Good luck ant try to keep us posted.

Hugs,

Terri

I agree tho, definitely get that baby to the Dr. & no more spanking Sometimes, its the only thing we no to do. It's like what else do we do to get thru to them?I no!The Pdoc told me that I was spanking my daughter for something that she couldn't help, things that weren't her fault. And taught me different ways to go about them.

One of my husbands friends (i have another name i like to call him ) Said that my daughter didn't get enough @$$ beatings, or she wouldn't act the way she does!!!He didn't tell my husband that directly but, everytime I see him, I still want to punch him in his freaking head!

Good luck with your daughter!

Hugs,

Amber

you obviously care deeply for your family, you are on the right track. don't stop!