Do the feelings ever come back?

Thanks everyone!!

I was emotionless for about 2 years. All I can really tell you is it did go get better for me. It took several medications changes, and a commitment to getting better, but it did get better over time.

All people are different so your husband may not react the same.

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. I wish you well.

DC

I know it's har to watch your husband suffer, and hope that he get's help. I have been there with my fiance. I would even break up with him to try to make him suffer enough to realize what he was giving up.

But it never worked. He had to get help in his own time. He would always come back with more promises. I finally had to let him go. I had to let go with out expectations. I had to make a decision for myself about what was more important. I had focussed on him for so long, that my kids, and I suffered.

What happened for me, was, that I decided, I wasn't going to wait for him anymore. I put my kids, and my happiness first, and started working on me.I got myself back, and started working on healing myself. My life no longer depended on him getting well.

It wasn't my fault, or responsibility, anymore. He did these things because he was sick. He had to beable to have the space to find his own solutions, and if he didn't come back, at least, I was okay, and happy. I missed him, and had to grieve, but, at least, i had a life beyond him. He eventually found his way to a solution, and got help, and now, even with him in my life, I can continue to take care of me, and respect my self. We now have a better relationship. He takes care of him, and I take care of me. We no longer blame eachother for our misery. If someone took off, and cheated on me, that is about them, not about me. They made their own decision. That is not love.

I had a relationship 8 yrs ago, and he took off like that. It was the best thing that could have happened. I also questioned whether his feelings were real. I felt lied to for 4 yrs. So , why would, I want to have this person come back to do it, again?

I also made a list of the positive things that happened due to the break up, and the best one was, that I got the best end of the deal. I have 3 wonderful kids who get to live a good life with at least one healthy parent. I als eventually met a man that treated me , and my kids way better, than my ex did.

Hang in there, we are here for you.

Everyone here who knows me also knows that I'm usually the one who goes against the grain on this subject. The softie in me usually tells people who face your kind of struggle to not give up; when you love someone stand & fight for what you want & need.... In your case, I will not say that. From reading your post, it seems like you have already done all you can do and that hubby is already gone (and has been for quite some time). I feel the pain behind your words and it's obvious that you love him very deeply. The thing is; you've spent too much time wishing for his return, his love and his cooperation. This time I actually agree with the others... it's time for you to start worrying about YOU!!! You deserve happiness and peace of mind and I believe that the only way you will achieve that at this point is to let go and move on.... I wish you nothing but the happiness you've obviously been longing for.... YOU DESERVE IT.