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ladymary
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Hello, Wondering if a bipolar runs away, after some time, wants to return, could it be that they have saw the error of there ways, and want to start anew. Have you ever heared of any successful relationships? Do they become more open to converse over matters better? Will they be able to stop lying, or control it. Have a lot of questions regarding the return. My husband, has returned in the past, and he was better for awhile, then it starts again. I know when he returns he will have to see a medical profession. From all I have read on this forum, which I am truly grateful, I can see clearly, he is has an biopolar disorder. Reading of the forums, have been like reading a book on my life with my husband. I just want to know, Can a relationship be saved? How do we go about dealing with the return? |
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southern10
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Hello LadyMary...Do you want him to come back? Do you love him? Hugs Doing what you love is freedom....loving what you do is happiness. Dont apologize for being patriotic,support the troops-----Toby Keith |
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Mine is saved and I was a wretched mess. For my situation, we have noticed that we communicate better. But it has to be open lines, with compassion and understanding, even through the hurtful stuff. No yelling, what's done is done. You can't change the past, but you can make a better future. I have been back for two years now...and it was a struggle at first for both of us to get past the hurt...but we made it, and now it is a strong relationship. This was done without counseling. No therapists...just telling eachother that it was no longer okay to raise our voices...Also another way we look at it is...we are adults, if we can't make it work by loving eachother and growing a new respect for eachother then, it is time to let go, move on...be okay with it. Probably why we are still together, neither one of us can move on because we are best friends, even through the tears of all the devestation...we still love eachother. I'm just saying YES, IT ABSOLUTELY CAN HAPPEN! Good Luck! Post edited by: Deep_Hearted_Sigh, at: 05/11/2008 14:39
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ladymary
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Yes, I do want him back, I love him dearly, and miss him even more..I want to be able to help him, make our life better. |
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ladymary
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Thank you for this insight, I so hope things work out with us, I love him so very much, and want for us to be. We have so much in common, we laugh have wonderful times together, I hope things turn out for me, as well as they have for you..Thanks again, hope is still there. You words, have given me the hope, I needed, been so depressed, not hearing anything from him, no calls, nothing, just misery for me. I can identify with your comment being a wreck, that's exactly how I am feeling. Praying it will be over soon, and he will call, something would beat what I am feeling. Thanks again... ladymary |
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Dear ladymary, i think a relationship can be saved and even grow closer if both people want it. I can see you do and hopefully he will want that too... I think you are smart to heed the advice of so many who set boundaries and insist on the person to get help for their disease. First step is to get a diagnosis from a medical professional. We care "In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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ladymary
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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, I am very hopeful that we can grow closer, with more understanding of what is going on. Patience and working together, Will make us better, I just hope he soon call. Until, I will contiue to pray, and be hopeful they he is feeling my vibes out to him, and he will reach out..thanks
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ladymary my husband is bipolar and we have been seperated 3 times in 2 years. Since he has been treated for his bp, we are back together now for a lil over a year and happy to report that we have a marriage stronger than ever. There is hope...i know how you are feeling i have been there. If you ever need to talk feel free to send me a PM |
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ladymary
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thanks cozy, I am hopeful, once he returns we can get the help he needs, and our life can be better. That's wonderful, I am so happy for you, I know you understand where I am right now, not a good place at all. He havent called me, been almost 2 months now, and it's miserable. thanks for your ensight. |
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Dear ladymary...2 months is kind of a long time to be gone. Is there family or someone you can contact to check on him. Where has he been living? I know you said that he hasn't returned your phone calls and you think he might be calling and hanging up...why not get a phone with caller id? If it were my husband I would be worried sick, and to be honest I would also be hopping mad. You seem to be handeling it better than I would. "In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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