why to they cheat?

I would have never suspected this from her but I guess it does not shock me anymore after reading all of your experiences. She tried "turning this around" (like I somehow mis-interpreted her e-mails)....you know...there are some things (specially sexual content) that you cannot mis-interpret. I cut her out of my life completely. BiPolar or not...no one deserves this.

I am with you guys on so many of the points brought up in the thread, especially the last one, I agree that sexual energy is a form of sex, PERIOD.

Not innocent joking, I am talking about an inter-change between people of a sexual nature directed at each other. So, Finnally done,

I beleive you have every right to see it as inappropriate.

ANYWAY, I would not wish to inflict my moral opinion on anyone else.

So understand anyone reading this that I am not judging you, this is just one person's opinion. It seems that when I was manic years ago the guys flocked around...I think when we are like that they sense it. Not all of them, just the horn dogs (sorry fellows, gentlemen won't probably be offended by this, just the horn dogs).

Sadly I did things that were not nice. But, it was a long time ago...I think on the internet there are web sites that are not as well monitored as MDJ and are places that can be a hunting ground for horn dogs...remember when we are manic sometimes we are hyper sexual, and reading the thread and staying on the topic, I hate to see someone realize later that they have hurt themselves, or other people.

Himilliating. She wanted to remain friends but I find that self-torture. Specially after all TRUST has been broken and after these DISRESPECTFUL things occurred the last two years of our three year relationship. I called her all kinds of things (that anger can think of) but this felt like emotional and psychological CHEATING....even IF they never actually met (which I find it hard to believe at this point).

I think a lot of people confuse the two and so have sex with one person while seeking intimacy with someone else...find someone who has the same values as you do....I wish you well.....by the way. The old saying find a girl you can take home to your mother is very wise....

I've known many people considered normal, that have had affairs and the only time they felt regret about it was when they had been caught at it.. someone here compared it to a addiction, and that is very true, it is like a addiction, bipolar or not, there is a base need for attention, the feelings of love derived from it.. the feelings of self importance, etc.. there are groups like for AA, NA, and OE, it is called sexaddicts anonymous, these are for people addicted to sex, and I am sure the rooms are not filled by bipolars alone..

The biggest thing to consider, is can you forgive and forget, and do you truly believe with help they will not go there again..?

Norma, there are a lot of sick puppies in this world, online or not, I could probably make your roots blush if I told you about some of the things I have heard and seen.. A good relationship has to be based in mutual respect and trust in each other, and if it is not, then it is doomed to failure.. Meeting your mate is a hard thing to do in this day and age..

I am sorry about what happened. Finding things out like that can be shocking, and hurtful. I haven't cheated in any of my relationships,

I have caught ex boyfriends in lies, and sneakyness, as far as porn, and gambling, etc. It is very dissappointing.

Have you been doing anything to take care of you in this situation? Have you considered therapy, or finding some kind of support from family or friends? I have been through break ups from bad relationships, and it was really helpful to have support through it.