Relationship Advice Megathread

I didn't see anything like this here, but I have on other forums. I've seen a lot of threads here related to dating among the bipolar community, and think it would be good if there was one place people could go to for advice/venting on romantic relationships.

For myself, me being bipolar, I guess what I need help with most is starting one in the first place. I would talk/flirt with a number of different girls, and it would be fun for a little while. Unfortunately, it was just fun, and I got the same joy out of flirting with a girl as with a guy, even though I'm heterosexual. As far as actually having a serious relationship that never seems to happen.

Namely, I think, it's because my likes/dislikes often change rapidly, and I often get afraid of people seeing how disordered/manic/depressed my thoughts can get.

At this point in my life, my second year of college, I just don't think I can keep going at this superficial level. Are there any other people on the forums who have experienced this? How did you get over it?

Post edited by: Anthroguy, at: 10/05/2007 16:55

Post edited by: Anthroguy, at: 10/05/2007 16:56

Don't ask me how my husband got through that wall but he did and I am better for it.

I have had two long term relationships, and my bipolar symptoms would come out,and I ruined both of them. I thought, I just wasn't capable of having a committed relationship. I would get very angry and would get very dependent on the person. I would blame them for everything.

I finally found someone who stayed with me anyway, no matter how insane I got. I was full of fear and tried to push him away. I didn't want to give up, my independant life style.

He loves me whether, I take meds, or not. I have grown a lot since, I have gotten help, and our relationship has gotten better. He also is willing to do the work it takes to get through challenges. We were ready, I guess to be committed, and let go of our disfunctional behavior. I am grateful, and fortunate to have found someone like this.

We have built our life up from the ground up.We were both starting over from hitting bottom in our addictions. We have both stayed sober, and were willing to get through the challenges of raising 4 kids, and cleaning up our previous wreckage from the messes we made. We also had a lot of growing up to do. So, it is possible to find a good relationship, but takes a lot of work. Godbless, Gypsy