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05/03/2008 19:52
zinnia
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here's for all you moms out there. we can do this, no matter how different our methods. hope you cry like i did. it felt good, that love for my boys.

MOTHERS and MOMS

This is for the mothers who have sat up

all night with sick toddlers in their arms,

wiping up barf laced with Oscar Mayer

wieners and cherry Kool-Aid saying,

'It's okay honey, Mommy's here.

Who have sat in rocking chairs for hours on end soothing

crying babies who can't be comforted.

This is for all the mothers who show up at

work with spit-up in their hair and milk stains

on their blouses and diapers in their purse.

For all the mothers who run carpools and

make cookies and sew Halloween costumes.

And all the mothers who DON'T.

This is for the mothers who gave birth to

babies they'll never see. And the mothers

who took those babies and gave them homes.

This is for the mothers whose priceless art

collections are hanging on their refrigerator doors.

And for all the mothers who froze their buns on metal

bleachers at football or soccer games instead of watching from the

warmth of their cars.

And that when their kids asked, 'Did you see me, Mom?' they

could say, 'Of course, I wouldn't

have missed it for the world,' and mean it.

This is for all the mothers who yell at their kids in the

grocery store and swat them in despair when they stomp their feet and

scream for ice cream before dinner. And for all the mothers who count

to ten instead, but realize how child abuse happens.

This is for all the mothers who sat down with

their children and explained all about making

babies. And for all the (grand)mothers who

wanted to, but just couldn't find the words.

This is for all the mothers who go

hungry, so their children can eat.

For all the mothers who read 'Goodnight,

Moon' twice a night for a year. And then

read it again, 'Just one more time.'

This is for all the mothers who taught

their children to tie their shoelaces before

they started school. And for all the mothers

who opted for Velcro instead.

This is for all the mothers who teach their sons

to cook and their daughters to sink a jump shot.

This is for every mother whose head turns automatically when

a little voice calls 'Mom?'

in a crowd, even though they know their

own offspring are at home -- or even away

at college -- or have their own families.

This is for all the mothers who sent their kids

to school with stomach aches, assuring them

they'd be just FINE once they got there, only

to get calls from the school nurse an hour later

asking them to please pick them up. Right away.

This is for mothers whose children have gone

astray, who can't find the words to reach them.

For all the mothers who bite their lips until they

bleed when their 14 year olds dye their hair green.

For all the mothers of the victims of

recent school shootings, and the mothers

of those who did the shooting.

For the mothers of the survivors, and the mothers who sat in

front of their TVs in horror, hugging their child who just came home

from school, safely.

This is for all the mothers who taught their

children to be peaceful, and now pray

they come home safely from a war.

What makes a good mother anyway?

Is it patience? Compassion? Broad hips?

The ability to nurse a baby, cook dinner, and

sew a button on a shirt, all at the same time?

Or is it in her heart?

Is it the ache she feels when she

watches her son or daughter disappear

down the street, walking to school alone

for the very first time?

The jolt that takes her from sleep to

dread, from bed to crib at 2 A.M. to put

her hand on the back of a sleeping baby?

The panic, years later, that comes again

at 2 A.M. when she just wants to hear

their key in the door and know they

are safe again in her home?

Or the need to flee from wherever she is

and hug her child when she hears news

of a fire, a car accident, a child dying?

The emotions of motherhood are

universal and so our thoughts are for

young mothers stumbling through diaper

changes and sleep deprivation...

And for mature mothers learning to let go.

For working mothers and stay-at-home mothers.

Single mothers and married mothers.

Mothers with money, mothers without.

This is for you all. For all of us...

Hang in there. In the end we can

only do the best we can. Tell them

every day that we love them. And pray

and never stop being a mother...

Please pass along to all the mothers in your life.

'Home is what catches you when

you fall - and we all fall.'

Please pass this to a

wonderful mother you know.

(I just did!)

If you send this to just one person, it should make

it all the way around the world by Mother's Day.

Well behaved women rarely make history.

Thou canst not disturb a flower without the troubling of a star...from "Troubling a Star", by Madelaine L'Engle...we all affect one another by our words and actions...it is our choice whether to do so purposefully and positively, or carelessly and hurtfully...may we all bring to one another the peace that we seek...

"if you want others to be happy, practice compassion. if you want to be happy, practice compassion" the Dahli Laama
Peace-
Zinnia

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05/03/2008 20:03
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Crying happy and sad tears...thanks Z
"In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan


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05/04/2008 04:51
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I'm not speaking to my mother, or is it she's not speaking to me? I got so tired of her complaining about crap that she should have handled two years ago. I got tired of her constantly complaining about politics when she can't be bothered to go vote, Complaining that her cable tv is blurry whenever she gets the bill...but wont call the service dept. Complaining that my brother never listens, when she hardly speaks to him. Complaining that her roof is leaking, but had a new fence installed instead. Complaining that I dont listen to her complaints. I'm so frustrated. I'll tell her what to do, even offer to do it for her. If she took care of all this crap, she'd have nothing to talk at me about.

I told her I was diagnosed with lyme disease and she said "I told you to wear bug spray". Help.




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05/04/2008 05:03
zinnia
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sorry it's like this for you, psk-i have an aunt i love dearly that is a lot like this. i finally came to the conclusion that she's more comfortable coming from the place she's complaining from than doing anything to actually create change. change scares her, even though she knows it would make her life better. maybe you could do what i do and just nod and look like you're taking her really seriously when she complains, but not voice any response. it's worked with my aunt. i still get to talk to her, but it limits the effect her negativity has on me.

peace to you.

Well behaved women rarely make history.

Thou canst not disturb a flower without the troubling of a star...from "Troubling a Star", by Madelaine L'Engle...we all affect one another by our words and actions...it is our choice whether to do so purposefully and positively, or carelessly and hurtfully...may we all bring to one another the peace that we seek...

"if you want others to be happy, practice compassion. if you want to be happy, practice compassion" the Dahli Laama
Peace-
Zinnia

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05/04/2008 11:58
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Hey, PSK...my daughter calls to complain sometimes...she is 29 and a professional...but, with Momma she needs to vent. I tell her for every negative thing she tells me she has to give me something positive...this sometimes pisses her off. And she says Momma you don't give me any pity. I tell her hell no...it drives me crazy because i want to fix things for her and can't. I thought this mothering job was going to be easy!!! I worry when she calls...and worry when she doesn't!!! I am a mess.
"In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan


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05/04/2008 15:20
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Thank you Zinnia,

That was wonderful. I cried, too.

I stopped complaining about my mother. When, I finally had kids, I realized there are no perfect mothers. I called up appologizing to her for all the horrible things, I did. I was a wild child...LOL I gave her all of her gray hair.

God Bless,Gypsy
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05/04/2008 19:18
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Thanks Zinnia- That was beautiful. Brought back a lot of memories

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