relationships

I hate to be with out a male reltionship... but when i am in one i completely screw it up....

i'm sitting home alone of a friday night... i feel like such a looser.. i could go out.. but what.. to see the same people i see everytime i go out..

it's driving me crazy being alone..

You are feeling probably like lots of people age are feeling right now if they are sitting home on a Friday night. I know that doesn't help much when you are feeling down. Do you have girl friends that you hang out with?

Being home on a Friday night aint so bad......

I am guilty of having to have that male companionship too...I would always have to have a "back up" just in case my current one fell through. And I made myself miserable! My latest "companionship" is keeping himself company in front of his computer....who would've thought online gaming was a substitute for human interaction.

My point is, there is nothing wrong with being alone. It gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself. I agree with you...bars and clubs....ugh. Just a waste of money, and you dont feel so great in the morning

I think that it is better to be alone than to be with someone you arent happy with....just so you arent alone.

It's Saturday now anyway....what you got planned for the weekend?

I have been in a couple of long term relationships. Even when, I had someone, I would feel uncomfortable being alone. I would also of not having anything else going on besides the relationship. I would shut out all my friends, and stopped doing things, I liked to do, when, I was single.

So now, I have been in a relationship for 5 yrs, and have kept doing things that, I enjoyed. I have friends, and hobbies, and can hang out, and feel okay with it. When, I got on meds, they slowed me down, and I wasn't used to being with me. I had spent so much time running around,and in crisis, that, I never slowed down to get to know me.

So, now, that I am working on me, and getting used to the peace, and quiet,and spending time alone, I really enjoy it.

There are places you can meet people besides bars. There are coffee shops, and book stores. There are also bipolar support groups.

Hang in there. We are always here, too.

Like Gypsy, I am working on me now too.....I am trying to figure out why I have the need for a man in my life, even when it is not healthy. Sometimes I think I feed off the turmoil....and maybe because it is comfortable for me. That is what I am used to, so that is what I look for. But, it just lands me in bad situations......like the one I am in now.

I think I am going to focus my efforts on my kids, and if a man happens to cross my path.....well, then I will deal with it then.

Until then, I know there are lots of people here to talk to