Bipolar Support Group

i see to have this irrational fear in every friendship/relationship that they are going to leave me. it is wreaking havoc in my life. i constantly need reassurance that they love me, care about me, aren't leaving me. if i am feeling particularly sensitive of paranoid, any little thing that i perceive as a slight just snowballs in my mind until i am convinced that they could never possibly want me around or love me. taht they hate me and that i am annoying. i have very low self esteem and i know that is a big part of it. but how do i get past this? how can i work through this. i'm tired of losing people i care about because of this.

I feel the same way sometimes. I get overwhelmed with feelings that the people I love are going to leave me. But I just have to remind myself that it simply isn't true. If if was true, they wouldn't have held my hand the last time I went to the hospital. They wouldn't have flown up to visit me in the hospital. They wouldn't being offering to help me pay for my meds. If they didn't want to keep me around they would have let me do bad things to myself which I know in my heart is not the answer. I just have to keep reminding myself of all of the positive things they have done for me when I am down. If they can love me then, they will continue to love me when I have good days and when I have bad days. I am slowly starting to overcome this fear. You will too with time and patience. Just remember all of the good they have done for you. And they wouldn't stick around if they didn't love you in some way shape or form.

I am terrified of being alone, but I like being by myself. does that make any since. I love for someone to be around me so i'll know that they will be there, but I just want to be alone most of the time. Understand? mind is moving and can't slow it down.

i don't mind being alone. not at all. i'm not a people person AT ALL. but there are people i care about that i want to keep around and have in my life. and i keep blowing it because i am afraid they will get sick of me.

I have a major fear of abandoment! After an undisclosed traumatic event My mother's family (three sisters and both her parents my mamaw and papaw) does not want anything to do with me or my kids...that was their words. It had nothing to do with my bipolar disorder or anything. But it was a very bad thing!! And that same year I went through a divorce. After both of those things I am so scared of losing anyone in my life that I love. I have a constent fear of my boyfriend leaving me!! Sometimes I obsess over it...I just can't stop the feelings. I live in constent fear of losing people that are close to me!

Sasshley,

If you get any good advice please pass it along to me. I feel EXACTLY the same as you do!!!!!!

i think for me, especially in relationships, i have continually settled for whatever i could get because i didn't think i was worth anything else. and of course because of my low self-esteem, i allowed myself to be treated poorly and eventually they left me. now i have someone that i adore, that also has BP and understands what i go through. and i'm afraid i'm going to lose him because everyone else leaves, but also because i constantly need to be reassured by him. he is frustrated with me and rightfully so.

you know what my wife is teaching me to think of her and the kids because all I did and used to is think of myself, and I setlled for anything as well, I ended up with three kids out of the deal. And I can't stand the Mamas. But Now my wife,who understands my condition, has helped me learn to love and if it wasn't for her I wouldn't get paid,lol. but seriously I got #7 on the way yeah I'm a pimp!lol!

I have lost many a friendships along the way, due to my mental issues.

I stay pretty much to myself. Both my husband and I like it that way. Let's just say I'd rather have acquaintences than friends anymore.

so, i guess the question is, what can i do to start changing this behavior pattern? i am cognizant. i take my meds. i am stable most of the time. now that i recognize it, how do i start correcting it?