Your opinion on this conversation

My question is, after the game my ex texts me and we had a small conversation over texting. I would like some opinions on this because I feel I was just being honest and of course it ended in a big drama scene, AS USUAL with her.

Texts:

She says- Thanks for comforting L.You know how sensitive she is n she felt bad she couldn't get the ball.

I reply - No problem.Just becuz you shut me out of their life doesn't mean I stopped loving her.I lover her and when she cries it hurts me.She's clearly very emotional.She cried 4x tonight and that makes me very sad for her and whatever is going on in her little world.

She says - Nothing but good things are going on in her world. She is tired from us being at HER friends last night until 7 where we all had a great time. I regret trying to be nice to you.

I reply - I wasn't trying to be nasty. I was just concerned.I'm sorry I thought u could understand that.

She says - Right. By the way YOU were the one that wanted a clean break remember so stop trying to play the victim.I will NEVER contact you again so do the same.

Now, I want an outsiders opinion because I was just being honest and I feel like she had to start with snide remarks and turn it into a fight. What do you think?

Gloria

Maybe I was out of line, but I love that little girl and to see her like that is heartbreaking.

That is the nature of their beautiful little hearts. If mommy or daddy are sad, so are they. The poor little dears don't even have to know why.....they just cry. At the first tear, if nothing is visibly wrong with a child, a parent must break that tearful moment with , hey lets go get ice cream after the game....or anything, to take her mind off daddy acting so sad. You can't condone tears or they will continue, even if the little one doesn't know why they are crying.

Gloria

Post edited by: morningglory/oldglory, at: 04/25/2008 06:51

As he loves and cares for the girl, his concern was only for her wellbeing and was there something that could be going on, it's hard to know what is going on in a childs mind, even if you do live with them in the same household.. not being there makes it even harders, she could be thinking that she is the blame for him and her breaking up, which can cause the tears, and it might also just be the fact that she was overly tired..

There was a time in my life, that I cried all the time, had migraines all the time and was losing weight rapidly and throwing up, could not eat, etc.. I was even given a cat scan looking for a brain tumor, finally a doctor we saw asked if I was worrying about anything, he at least cared to ask, and he found out that I was being abused, he was the first one I told about the childhood abuse.

Texting is as hard to understand the persons intent as this medium of computer is..

Gloria