iheartcocochanel wrote:I'm wondering if my mom is bipolar, or just damaged from her past?
Here's how it goes... She's always yelling at everyone. The house is messy..you're lazy, so and so does _____ wrong, she's annoyed about ____, everything in the world that she dislikes about my dad, you don't care about me, so and so ______________ (ie: some sort of complaint). Followed by often hour long one sided discussions of tragedies or the bad behavior's of others she's heard about on the news or dr. phil or whatever. She'll talk and talk and talk about it and not notice that not only is no one responding, no one is really listening either. A lot of times I wish I could turn off my ears when she starts these bits. She'll go over and over and OVER whatever it is she's got stuck in her mind about that time. She is extremely critical of everyone, and really quick to point out something about me or my sister or my dad that she doesn't like. from what you're wearing to how you act, and she'll say it to your face. She often flips from acting like a normal person to suddenly being weird and depressed. I can set my watch by it that every sunday morning she'll yell about the house being messy and about how my dad is such a bad husband. She'll follow this with a nap, then yell at us again in the evening.
Then there is the weirdness..... whenever she's home, she refuses to wear pants, or shorts, and prefers to walk around like that. often without underwear either. she'll blow her nose when she's right by your ear even though we've told her that's gross. she's usually about 30 minutes late to everything. she smells super weird..like when i open her bedroom door, the smell that comes waifing out is enough to knock you over. she shops when she has no money to spend, and even if you tell her you're tired and want to go home, she continues to shop. it's like she has absolutely NO regard for how you're feeling. it's like she doesn't care that you don't want to be there. she's bought so much stuff that one side of our garage is literally stacked to the ceiling with stuff that she's bought and she also hides items underneath the skirt on the bedside table. she won't let me lock the door when i shower or go to the bathroom even though i'm TWENTYONE years old, and she usually comes in to pee or brush her teeth or whatever, always, when i'm showering or using the bathroom. there is no privacy around her.
then she acts completely helpless as well. she'll be standing right next to the dog bowl and tell me to feed the dog, and when she's going to bed, she makes me take the dogs out instead of doing it herself. the phone is ringing right next to her...she asks me to get up, walk across the room, and get the phone. she has me write her emails for her, when she can do it herself. etc.
her car has so much stuff in it there is hardly anywhere to sit.
her walk in closet has stuff in it literally piled to the ceiling. she can't use it because it's too full.
i never know when she's going to yell at me about something or criticize me. i feel nervous around her, and i worry about showing her new clothes i've bought because she'll find something wrong with it.
she'll walk around saying she's so overwhelmed over the tiniest thing.
she's probably a good 80 pounds overweight.
i find it so hard to live with her. mostly it just makes me feel frustrated and agitated to be around her. i love her, but...
so...does this sound like bipolar?
she is on lexapro for depression.
oh..and have i mentioned that she works in mental health?...............
i've asked her to try and get tested for bipolar or talk to the doctor about it as she suspects she MIGHT have it. she says she will and then never does it.
sorry this is so long guys!
Hi, I'm having almost about the same problem as the poster above. Except for a few things:
- My mother doesn't walk around naked or anything
- She has been hospitalized and shes knows she has the disease and everyone else does too and she was recently released from the hospital after about 1 week.
- Shes always buying things
- Sometimes she refuses to take her medicine
- She always talking to herself
- My dad has threatened that he will walk out on us because he can't take it anymore, but he doesn't want to cas he still cares for us and for her
- This is driving me crazy cas I'm only 14, and like my sibs and I have had to stay home to watch our little sibling and stuff, and it's been like nsgfjsldfs
- I really want to know if there's anyway to like calm both parents down, and like help her take her meds and relax, because she never sleeps.
- I'd really appreciate any help you could give. My dad has been talking about sending us back to his homeland if things get rough and I know if I go back there I won't be able to attend the schools I want, and my future would be wrecked. He doesn't want to, but the way my mother is, it's like there's no choice.
Please help. Thanks
For those of you who had to read extremely long post. sorry =/ but thanks
btw, this isn't the first/second/third time this has happened. But I can't take it anymore.
Post edited by: jumpsuitglory, at: 04/23/2008 19:10
