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04/21/2008 10:07
aj1963
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 I need advice. My boyfriend has been diagnosed with Manic bi-polar. He is being medicated, and is taking his medication. Last night he came up with this far fetched lies of where he's was. (which I know he wasn't cause he called his son and told him he was at the beach for SOS week) Not a problem with me I just wanted the truth. When he goes manic he doesn't answer his phone, he finally called fed me another big lie. My question is how do I handle this. I have called his doctor, and confronted him about the truth. I really want to throw his clothes out the door and say to hell with you. The thing that bothers me the most is when he's like this not only does he drink way too much but he is over sexed. I'm so new to this disease.
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04/21/2008 10:22
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 Welcome to the group, honey. There are many here with bipolar disease, I am one of them. There are also many people here who are going through similar situations. You might want to browse the posts to get some insight there, also.

I am wondering what the doctor said when you confonted him/her?

"In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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04/21/2008 10:30
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 The doctor was in a session and I am to call back later this afternoon. I have been reading lots of posts and I'm learning alot. I do know his next response to me, it's going to be my fault. He's been caught and I will somehow get blamed. How do I handle when he begins to blame me, I refuse to shead another tear. Maybe I shouldn't answer my phone or my door (oops he has a key).

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04/21/2008 10:33
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 Hi aj1963,

Welcome. I am glad you are here. There are alot of good people here, that have bipolar, and those, that love them.

I have bipolar 1 like your boyfriend. I also have been sober for almost 6 yrs. I know that drinking alcahol is not good when you are on meds.

It can make him off balance, and his moods will get more extreme.

As far as dealing with him, I would take care of you, learn as much as you can about this illness, maybe get some therapy for yourself to learn how to cope with his illness. You can set boundaries, and don't have to put up with his behavior bipolar, or not. You can't chase him. No matter how hard you try, he has to get help for himself. I can't tell you whether to leave or stay, but, if he goes untreated, he will just get worse.

Do you have any support from friends or family? There are also support groups for spouses of bipolars. NAMI. com may have a list of them in your area. You don't have to spend all your time on getting him help. Make sure you are taking care of you mentally, emosionally, and physically. If you arent healthy you can't be there for anyone else.

Hang out, vent, share, and ask questions. We are here for you.

God Bless,Gypsy
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04/21/2008 10:51
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 Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I did ask the Doctor's secretary to have the doctor recommend a therapist for me. After 2 years you would think I was use to this behavior. I swear this disease changes as quick as a stop light. We were in Charleston last week for 3 days celebrating our birthdays and he did drink quite a bit. In a sober moment he told me he was now the happiest he had ever been. Even today through all the lies he told me how much he loved me. He knows he's bi-polar, he knows he lost his wife of 27 years because of irrational behavior. I'm to the point where he made his bed, now lay in it. Find someone else to put up with your &*%^. Thanks again for listening to be vent.
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04/21/2008 12:42
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 Dear AJ, you don't own the problem...he does...don't make him sell it to you.

You don't have to buy the S*#!.

I love your last lines...you go, girl.

"In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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04/21/2008 13:44
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 You can always call a mobile locksmith to change the locks. I had to do this on my home, and get ADT security..

Good luck!

Woodhaven

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04/21/2008 13:47
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 To this post, you are seeing some of the behaviors of Bipolar. These are typcial of some manifestations, along with gambling, buying in excess, wild mood swings.

If you do not wish to pursue this relationship, get out now. If YOU do, you will go through all the meds with him, if he takes them, until one works. Then you have to see if he takes them voluntarily....

good luck.

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04/21/2008 14:11
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 I am a fixer that's why I love being a middle school teacher. It's so tough watching him destroy his life. He just got paid (makes great money) but he will blow it all. His doctor had to leave early today with a sick child. I can't talk to her until tomorrow. I texted him earlier and told him to look at the signs, he had become manic, review his stress level and the patterns. I told him it was his decision but if I were him I would call his doctor. I haven't heard a word and I won't, the longest it's been is a month in one of these stages. My friends are taking me out to dinner, hopefully a good glass of wine and the love of my son will get me through the night. You guys are wonderful, thanks for your insight.
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04/21/2008 14:35
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 Norma help me to understand, is he aware of what he's doing. Knowing you are bi-polar does logic not play any part. He's 51 years old, we have sex twice a day and he runs for more, I didn't fall off a turnip truck I see right thru the lies. What a blow to me and my ego. My middle school kids lie better than he does. I'm just trying to understand his reasoning.
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