bipolar spouse

Pdocs, can have people wean off of a med before trying a new one.

If Effexor makes your husband tired, maybe talk to the pdoc, and ask about the spaciness, and maybe try something else to balance the tiredness.

As far as the on and off behavior and threatening to find someone else that will put up with he bipolar. I personally would not put up with someone that plays head games, bipolar, or not. I don't have to spend my time trying to figure someone else out. I would rather deal with me, and let the other person figure out what they want. I don't put up with much in relationships. I keep it really simple. Either they want something real or they don't.

I have something real and long term today, and someone who is willing to do the work.

I have been very lucky, this time in my relationship. I have someone who is as committed as I am to our relationship, who doesn't play games. I used to try to figure people out, too, and I spent a lot of time doing this. I had to learn to let go of them, and let them take of them, and I needed to focus on me, and take care of myself. If I don't take care of me, I have nothing to give anyone else. ........Thanks, Gypsy