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glory
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Hurt, I can only imagine your pain and feelings of helplessness. Damn this disorder, but doubly damn him!! Why can't you file for a legal seperation with child support and maintainance (alimony) for yourself? Then you would have some control. You have to somehow take the reins to your life back. Please get some therapy for yourself to help you cope with this whole ugly situation. Gloria
"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"
We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.
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crig
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Thank you Gloria. You say you know and you remember, but my BP husband claims to not remember saying things. Of course it is selective what he does and does not remember and i believe it is out of convenience what he chooses to remember. Like just now, I was on the phone with him and he asked me what I was doing. I told him and he said "well, that must be tough to do, so I feel sorry for you." My response was "don't, it's no big deal, I'll get it done" and he immediately got aggetated and said "alright then, whatever. I guess you know what you're doing", but really really snide and sarcastic with a tinge of mean-ness, do you know what I mean, and I'm not suppose to take it seriously??!??!??! |
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glory
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Yes True, There are as many different bipolar actions as there are bipolars. So, I can only talk about myself. I am 58 and have been bipolar forever. lol (as far back as I remember.) Maybe my age is the reason I know myself and what I am capable of. When I, "go off", I know exactly what I am saying. The bipolar just makes it easier to say what I really want to say. I very seldom, if ever, take it back. In my case, where there is smoke there is fire. In a nonepisodal conversation I may call a person, say......rude. The same conversation during an episode, I will call that person a, "know it all son of a bitch"! Do you see the difference? So I guess for me, it is a matter of tact vs let it all hang out. lol Gloria
"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"
We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.
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Thanks Gloria, I see what you mean here. One of my friends however tries to control himself, for the most part, and then he says something during a manic episode,not that bad, maybe like, "take a pill" and then he goes into hiding for what seems like forever to me, then comes back and apologizes like crazy and tells me that he is not worthy of my friendship and feels bad and goes on and on when all I ever wanted was just just MOVE ON and let it go and forget it. I guess he has a different way of looking at things then, huh, or maybe I have no clue to what is really going on at all. Thanks!!! TrueBlue |
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glory
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crig.....don't you dare just take it!! However, don't waste your time arguing with him. We can justify anything we do to make us feel superior. You must lay down some ground rules for his interaction with you. If these rules are broken then follow through with whatever the punishment for his actions is. For example....if you catch him in a lie and you told him if that happened you would be checking everything he does for truth....then check it! He is not a child and he is accountable. REMEMBER THAT!! Gloria
"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"
We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.
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glory
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True, you betcha this friend knew what he was saying. However he sounds like the, "I don't want anybody to think I am nasty", type. lol Remember, where there is smoke there is fire. There may be some nastiness he apologizes for, but there is also truth coming out. Course this is with me, true, so I can't tell you for sure if that is your friend's case. Gloria
"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"
We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.
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Hello I'm a bit new. I do want to say that for me I haven't yet come to understand my manic moments but, I am learning. I have just had to tell my loved ones and friends that there may be times that I say harsh things. I also tell them that most of the time in the back of my mind that's how I really feel I just wouldn't normally say it in such a mean way. I try not to give excuses to my problems but, I do notice when I'm going through a moment that It's easier for me to lose all my tact. My heart is held together with ductape and bubblegum.
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Welcome realalivedeadgirl!!! At least you have the manners to tell your friends that you will do this. With my one friend it just comes out of no where and then like I say he gets all upset and goes into hiding for awhile. He wastes so much time doing this. He shuts out the world. He needs to get over it sooner then he does, I think. I hope that you will enjoy this support group!! There are a lot of nice people here and you will get some great advice. Also, don't be afraid to share with all of us what is going on with you. TrueBlue |
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I look forward to getting to know everyone. I will share my story soon. I think we all have one that changed our lives, or at least I do. My heart is held together with ductape and bubblegum. |
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hi real glad you're here later alligator Gloria
"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"
We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.
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