helping others

sorry i can't even right this it is upseting me so.

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J.D.

We didn't make the world. We're just trying to make it better.

Peace,

J.D.

Where does it say that we are suppose "make" or "insure" others how there suppose to be and turn out? Listen, I am sure you did the best you could with the tools that were available to you at the time. But there has and is never going to be a time where it is written in stone that we can "control" the people around us/those we love. We can support them, wish them the best, tell them our opinion, try and guide them down a better path, and love them with all our hearts. But WE CANNOT make them be or do anything. "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink."

Let yourself off this hook that you stuck yourself on because your mother and sister are full grown adults and there going to have to answer and live for what they are and done just as you have.

trying to say that its your fault how they turned out is like saying that its your fault its raining or the sun is shining. You can't control the weather anymore then you can control another person.

The only one you can control (to a certain level w/ bi-polar) is yourself! The only person I would put blame to is your mother. You are not responsible for raising her child or her that matter. She was suppose to do that. She was suppose to be a MOM!

Don't put my garbage on yourself then nessessary. With bi-polar, we have enough that on our plates as it is.

You can love them, worry about them and let them know as such but where they are, is the road they chose for themselves. Travel your own road my dear because that one alone, is the only one you can try to control. That is the one at the end of the day that you have to answer for........is yourself. Blessed be! Be strong. Dana

It was suppose to be MORE garbage...but I was typing to fast. Sorry. My spelling and grammer suck sometimes. Dana

Carmen

have stopped crying cause now i am swinging up to mania.....god i am dreading the down swing

You didn't fail. Let me tell you something. My aunt Bertha died back in 2003 in a nursing home( in which she has already been in and out of for years) , due to diabities and another complication. She was only 41.

She only died that young in a nursing home because she was constantly running away from a system and family trying to help her stay off the drugs and stay out of the streets of meth addiction and prostitution, in which kept her captivated for many years. She was in such a world of it, we never thought she'd ever get out.

My grandma had to be guardianship over her and she had a daughter even at 18 years old trying to keep her in the house and out of the streets. Bertha was unstoppable because she didn't want to help herself. They said she had a mind of a 13 year old going through a rebellious stage and she'd always stay that way.

My mom tried to have her live with us several times when I was growing up. Again, unstoppable. We still loved her and she had a great sense of humor. She made us laugh and she had a loving heart. However, she was unstoppable.

Sometimes you can't win them all, and sometimes no matter how much help you give to a person, if they don't take the help and try and meet you half way-its their loss unfortunately. Just like you can't give air to a person to breath if they don't try and breath themselves.

Don't be hard on yourself, just trust me! You can only do so much, but not alone. You may need to get other help, to help you get through this trying time. Another friend, or call a drug rehabilitation center. You can't always do it alone.

You sound like you really need to take care of you. Set some time out for you, alittle every day- till you feel stronger!

My Best,

April