Bipolar break-up

Also, I coach the 6 year old and the last practice (Tues.) she was all done up. Her hair was perfect and the make-up. And was nice to me, which was diff. I know it may seem self righteous, but why would you be looking like that for practice?

1. won't discuss matters with you

2. you don't trust her

3. she steals

4. leaves financial obligations

5. actions don't support words

6. proven liar

7. made kids lives a shambles

8. calculating

9. manipulative

I still don't see a lot of love from you toward her.

Geeze, why would you want that back? Maybe just maybe, you somehow let her know that these were your thoughts toward her. Maybe?????

At this point I think you should sell the house, and RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!, for the sake of the kids and yourself.

Gloria

Yes, I see your point. I've never really thought of it like that, but I guess you're right. I probably did let her know what I thought. The hard part was there was another person in there that was sweet and loving and that is the person I miss.

I'm not saying I want her back. I'm saying why is she trying to make my life difficult. Why alienate me from the kids and why not communicate with me over something so serious?

Maybe, she is needing some space, to deal with herself, and needs to put some time in between you. Maybe she was being pleasant with you at the game. It's better than being rude. Maybe she realized what she was doing, and needed to get out of the situation. Maybe if she communicates with you she will be sucked in again.

I have bipolar, and I have left people, because, I was tired of hurting them. Maybe having any contact with you is painful. When, I am unstable, and go into a depression, I feel like a burden. I feel like leaving, and that everyone is better off with out me. Maybe she doesn't want the same situation she has with her ex. Maybe she doesn't know how to deal with it.

Contact with my ex (the father of my 3 older kids) was very hard when he broke up with me. When he left he didn't want any contact with me, and eventually cut off contact with his kids, too.

Maybe, try to write a letter to her, asking her all these questions? Maybe the next time she is at the baseball game, try to talk to her.

I don't know. Maybe research it online. I look stuff up all the time, when, I am having a hard time with something.

Gloria

Post edited by: morningglory/oldglory, at: 04/17/2008 21:36

If I wrote her a letter, she would just show it to everybody and make me look like a fool. She probably wouldn't reply HONESTLY. She has been bad mouthng me to alot of people and all of it is false. Again, if she is done, why bother?

She's the type of person that cuts others down to make herself feel better. She has completely done a 360 and is playing up to her ex husband and his wife, who 2 days before we broke up she was fighting and carrying on with about them not being fit to see the kids and now she lets the kids go over. I mean I just don't get the contradictions.

GLORIA

Ok, Question - How do I know if she ever truly loved me? Will she remember the good or just fixate herself on the bad.

Myself - I can weigh both, but it seems she is fixating herself on the negative. Is that her way of justifying?

NOW RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gloria