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04/15/2008 12:22
willard
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 My girlfriend is bipolar and pregnant. When she told me I was not as excited as she was. I discussed all our options including abortion and adoption which severely offended her. She told me she was having the baby with or without me and that we should make the best of it. She immediately went off all her meds and we have had 3 doctors visits. Everything seemed fine with her pregnancy and the doctor told me to keep an eye on her. I started to become very excited about the upcoming baby (she is 4 months pregnant). She on the other hand has told me repeatedly that she didn't know whether she could ever forgive me for my initial reaction when she told me of the pregnancy and last week she broke up with me. She has become very angry at me and I can't seem to say anything without getting into trouble. I brought up bipolar and she even got more offended saying that she feels very stable. I attribute this to the happy hormones in her placenta whitewashing her bipolar. I have limited all my contact to e-mails which she doesn't answer. Any advice????
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04/15/2008 12:27
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 Willard - welcome to the group!

When was your GF diagnosed with Bipolar and how long have y'all been together?

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04/15/2008 12:35
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 Advice....OH YES!!!!!!!!!!! first things first!! I would be remiss if I didn't welcome you...SO WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!

Your girlfriend has every right in the world to be pissed at you and hurt by you!!! Would you have suggested abortion or adoption had she NOT been bipolar??????? I am bipolar and would have acted just like her, but it doesn't have anything to do with the disorder.. How disappoiinting to have you be anything but thrilled! If you didn't want a pregnancy, why didn't you take precautions. I think you were very wrong, young man, and need to appologize big time!!! I would have an extremely hard time forgiving or forgetting your initial reaction.

Gloria

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04/15/2008 12:43
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 I do agree with Gloria, I am not bipolar, and I would have been very hurt as well by an initial reaction like that and would have a very hard time dealing with it.

Was the break up a direct result of a discussion y'all had related to your initial reaction or did something else happen?

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04/15/2008 12:46
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 I explored all options. I never told her what to do. I also was getting very excited about the baby myself and have since apologized every day until she broke things off.
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04/15/2008 12:50
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 It was a result of her not being able to forgive me for my initial reaction.
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04/15/2008 12:51
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 Dear Willard, Welcome to the forum. Sorry about your troubles with girlfriend. Your initial response to the pregnance was bad judgment. And her response is understandable under the circumstances.

Since you are getting more excited about becoming a father you can begin to plan on how you are going to contribute financially to child's future. That will make you a part of this child that you have brought into the world's life. hugs, Norma

"In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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04/15/2008 12:59
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 Norma, I do plan on supporting the child. I have discussed that with her.
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04/15/2008 13:04
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 It sounds like you have done everything you can at this point. Discussed supporting the child with her, apologized to her... Now she is not responding to your emails. Send her an email and let her know that you will give her time and space and let her know that you are there for her if she wants you to be.

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04/15/2008 13:12
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 Mariels, That is what I have done and that is where I have left it. I do worry about her though, She has withdrawn to going to work and retreating to her room to watch reruns of CSI. We are both ski instructors and was somewhat active because of that and she hasn't been to the mountain for 1 1/2 months. She also doesn't eat that well which I was able to cover since I cook a lot. This concerns me more because of the baby.
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