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A FRIEND THAT KEEPS CALLING ME



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04/14/2008 11:50
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There is this girl that ive known for since i was 12 i am 25 now she used to be my bestfriend but honestly i can call myselfp best friend cause i always run away from people that get to attach to me especially friends well the story is she got married the same year i did and i moved 45 minutes away from her she calls me 24/7 in the morning at night gosh is been 2 years i cant stand her i dont answer for months i dont want to talk to her, number one reason cause she call alot and dont like to talk on the phone and other i dont like to a socialising with people alot and she always wants to go out i saw her 3 weeks ago my husnabd told me to give her a brake that she cared about me everything when good we bar-b q but as soon as it was the nex week she called me alot now i know i am bipolar but gosh what is wrong with her i am so mad and upset she dont stop calling me
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04/14/2008 12:16
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Wow, I feel for you I really do!!Sounds like to me you may have to tell her to back off. I no from experience it's going to be hard to do!

I had a friend that I had to get rid of because I just couldn't get along with. Has been recently in the past 2 weeks. At first this friend wanted to call all of the time, wanted to meet for lunch all of the time, do things, hang out on the weekends-every weekend, had to be a part of my every breathing moment of life. Made me sick!!!

I finally had to tell her, it was nothing against her at all. Which in the end I think it was, but that was in the beginning of our friendship. I told her, I wasn't up for hanging out all the time, i can't talk to people all of the time, every day..There are nice ways to go about it, but I guess they will get offended. Hopefully they will think about it and think WOW I was being a pain...If not, well, I guess you got her off your back...Does your friend no you are bipolar?

My name is Amber, Im 30 years old..Married for almost 12 years to my wonderful husband (together for 14). We have 2 children boy/girl. I have recently been diagnosed having Bipolar II.
Im glad to have found this website..I have lots of supportive people in my family. There is nothing else like having people to come to that truely understand, exactly what you are going thru or feeling!
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04/14/2008 12:28
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no she knows i had depression but i havent told her about been diagnosed bipolar a year ago everytime she calls i get headache

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04/14/2008 13:05
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It's getting pretty bad then!I was telling my husband the exact same thing you are saying!I told him, every time I see the girls # pop up on my phone my head would start pounding so hard I thought my brain was going to burst out of the back of my skull ( a lil dramatic but it was pounding SO hard). I would get so angry and just irritated. I called him one day crying because she called. He was like OMG, you are going over board. I said SHE WON'T leave me alone!!I just want her to leave me alone! I don't know, I would hate to give BAD advice..If she is a good friend, then I would find a nice way to talk to her about it. If not, I would not have any more contact with her..Because that just gets things started up again even worse?Maybe you could tell her YOU will call HER on a certain day..And maybe you can have a certain hang out day or something???Don't no, just throwing some ideas out there for you...
My name is Amber, Im 30 years old..Married for almost 12 years to my wonderful husband (together for 14). We have 2 children boy/girl. I have recently been diagnosed having Bipolar II.
Im glad to have found this website..I have lots of supportive people in my family. There is nothing else like having people to come to that truely understand, exactly what you are going thru or feeling!
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04/14/2008 13:29
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I TRY TELLING HER I WILL CALL BUT SHE DOES NOT GIVE ME TIME TO CALL HER, I AM BIPOLAR BUT HTERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER TOO CASUSE A PERSON WILL STOP CALLING IF THEY SEE YUO DONT ANSWER TAHNK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE I AM JUST GOING TO CHANGE MU NUMBER I FEEL BAD BUT I JUST CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE
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04/14/2008 13:41
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I don't blame you one bit!!I was trying to be nice, doesnt sound like you can be tho!HAHA. I would probably not have last as long as you have. That is just not fair for you to have to change your number tho geeze. She does sound like she has something going on!!Obsessive maybe? My husband took care of my problem friend. Told her we just werent compatible as friends, not to call me anymore. Don't suppose your husband could be so kind???LOL..

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My name is Amber, Im 30 years old..Married for almost 12 years to my wonderful husband (together for 14). We have 2 children boy/girl. I have recently been diagnosed having Bipolar II.
Im glad to have found this website..I have lots of supportive people in my family. There is nothing else like having people to come to that truely understand, exactly what you are going thru or feeling!
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04/14/2008 14:25
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I had someone who used to bother me alot like this. One day I sat them down and explained to them that I had an illness and some times it was hard for me to be around anyone. I told them that on my bad days I avoid phone calls and turn off the ringer so not to worry with bill collectors, family, stresses. I told her it would be great if we could set up a couple of nights that you recieve calls and tell her you should set up a night to get together as couples and have dinner. It might help you feel more at ease knowing when she will be calling and helping her think she is helping you.

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04/14/2008 15:00
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2 sides.........you could be me!! Been there done that!!!! I HATE THE TELEPHONE!!! USED TO HAVE THOSE FRIENDS, "FRIENDS????", WHO CALLED ALL THE TIME & I WOULD GET SO SICK TO MY STOMACH WHEN I SAW THEIR # THAT I WOULD ACTUALLY THROW UP. I AM OLDER NOW & I JUST DON'T LET IT HAPPEN. I TELL THEM NOT TO CALL BECAUSE I HATE IT. IF THEY REALLY CARE ABOUT YOU, THEY WILL STOP!!!!! TELL HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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04/14/2008 18:17
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Oh, 2sides, I have been like that where I call someone and they don't want to talk. Just be honest with her. If she is a friend she will understand. hugs, Norma

Post edited by: norma, at: 04/14/2008 20:21

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04/15/2008 08:38
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I have a friend that does this to me. I have explained that I don't answer the phone when I am having bad day. She will always claim to forget knowing this. She rings the phone constant if I don't answer it. I think my best friend is caller id. I know what I can deal with and when so if I don't want to answer, I don't. Only have one that will persistantly call when I don't answer. Ringer off helps too.....
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