Bipolar Support Group

My ex and i broke up in april after a year and 2 months,.

While we were dating, he worked at this summer camp for two months and there was this girl he worked with who at first i didn't like because I knew she had a thing for him....I just knew it...

He said nothing would ever be between them, she's a friend and nothing more...

It's been a few months since we'[ve broken up, and i'm happy we're still friends cause he played a huge role in my life...

He recently told me that this summer at camp, he and the girl from last summer contemplated a relationship....

He asked if it would make things awkward between the three of us (she and I became good friends) and i said of course not, we've broken up, and i'm happy that we are just friends..

But deep down it is cutting me like a knife...

Can anyone shed light on this to make it go away?

Be honest with him if you want to keep him in your life.

If she's a friend, remind her of the cardinal rule of friendship: don't date my ex...

I think it's perfectly natural to feel like you do even if you have moved on and no longer want to be in a relationship with him yourself...

i feel bad about saying that to her, because they were friends before she and i were...

Mybe my situation is somewhat different. I had met this gal thru my now Mother-in-Law (recently deceased). "She" is a very sweet woman. She started dating my ex-husband (I have no feelings for him - I filed for our divorce). Soon they moved in together. Talk about a small world! She/my mil kept in touch and would ocassionally discuss me/my present issues, present marriage to her son. etc. I felt NO loyalty to me/dh thru all of this. This friend is a very good match for my ex, she is also very good to my son, and my 2 grandbabies. Ex/I have to, from time-to-time, due to our mutual our son and grandchildren. We still get along (ex/me)and I am cordial to "her", but that is as far as it goes, hello's and goodbyes, maybe answer a ? or 2, but nothing personal.

Perhaps be cordial to your "friend", but don't continue a complete friendship. This will be difficult, maybe impossible, due to this long-term friendship. Remember she is no doubt uncomfortable as well. Would this be a possibility for you? Just MHO (my honest opinion.

I know with my ex gf even after we broke up and i had "moved on," it still hurt when i would hear about her happy and out with other guys.

I think your reaction is perfectly humanly normal - might be time just to ease the pair of them on out and find a couple new friends to take their place. The term "contemplating a relationship" doesn't ring true to me, I suspect what they're contemplating is an easy way to tell you it's on. If it hurts, eliminate it. Drucilla

I have to agree with Drucilla. They're probably already in a relationship, but apparently they do care enough about you to try to spare your feelings as much as possible.

I would also say to ease yourself away from the two of them, at least for at while until you are a little less sensitive to the breakup.

Thanks for all the advice....You guys are really good at it!!

I've moved far away from them, so it'll be easy to find some new friends...not that I'd totally eliminate them though...Theya re great people...

It's bothering you because it's a betrayal. If it DIDN'T bother you I'd call you an emotional liar. Let 'em both go... starting over fresh is good advice!

H.