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10/20/2007 10:03
jodie1973
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 I don;t plan on letting him come home. As far as I am concerned this marriage is over. I am trying to do the best things right now for the kids, so they can stay safe and not feel threatened anymore. I talked to a lawyer, and he gave me some good information, but I have not filed for divorce for several reasons....none of which are the desire to have my husband back.

It's just hard to understand it all. The BP, how it worked on him and all of us. How it continues to work and cause doubt in my mind.

Of course, I was not the perfect spouse. I seriously doubt that I drove him to madness, though. Even if it was "related to the marriage", it still camr from within him and the stress he felt be failing as a husband and father. But, that's not it...he is BP. I tried every day to be the best person I could be, and he cannot say that. I'm ready for this all to be in the rear view mirror.
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10/20/2007 11:12
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 I agree with the others. Take some time for yourself. You should do something good for just you...a hot bath, a nice walk, painting something...nurture yourself and let him sort his thing out. I am sure at some point he will realize his illness but he doesn't seem ready to admit to it yet. You don't need that--it's hard enough when the BP person acknowledges his/her illness! Anyway, take care. Hugs, peach
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10/20/2007 13:33
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 He is definately going to have a problem in a few days. All people with bp think they can do fine without their meds at some point. I left my husband twice for a year at a time when I was untreated, I blamed him for everything and was in complete denial about my diagnosis. I tried behavior modification, change of environment, narcotics and alcohol and a ton of shopping to deal with my illness. for me I had to have a depressive episode that resulted in me not being able to function at all for 6 months to finally do something about it. You can't know what it is going to take for him to take responsibility. I was very destructive untreated and I think that is the case with most people and I think it is really hard on the spouse to live with the constant upheaval and unpredictable behavior. My husband still is with me but what I did caused a huge strain on our marriage and we are still trying to rebuild it and I have no idea if we will be successful but I believe it is possible if I stay on my meds and tryb to work on it. I wonder if you would want to live with him untreated with all the stuff that gos along with it. I know my husband would not stay with me if I got off my meds, he expects me to take responsibility and he is right. We do things that impact other peoples lives (especially our families) when we don't take care of ourselves. I wish you the best of luck and I hope he gets some help. Do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself - you deserve to have some since of a normal environment. Be glad he's not at home getting off his meds so maybe you won't have to deal with the impact of a major episode - I'm sure it is terrble to be the spouse.

Good Luck,

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10/22/2007 10:43
jodie1973
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 Got a call at work today...he has an appt. with his Pdoc here intown tomorrow so he can "have his diagnosis reversed". ??????????????/??

Is that even possible? I mean, how can we take the bipolar person their word when they say everything is "fine". I am terrified that he is going to get the okay from his doctor and expect to take the kids away for a weekend...they have been through so much.

Anyone have any experience with this? A BP person tryng to get the diagnosis reversed?
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10/22/2007 11:05
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 Hey Jodie, I rather doubt that he can get the diagnosis reversed. Bipolar isn't something that you "get over" you can get it in some kind of control, but not over it, are you and he separated or divorced? if you feel that your kids will be in danger and you have custody, you don't have to let him take them. You can go to Court and ask for supervised visits only, like where he would have to be with a court appointed guardian or like at his mom's or someones that can be trusted to make sure that the kids best interest is considered first and foremost. He might not like the idea, but if he is a danger either physically or mentally to the children, then to hell with what he likes or doesn't.

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10/22/2007 13:33
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 Diagnosis reversed?! Is that even possible? Well, you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers during all of this. Take care. --peach
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10/25/2007 15:32
jodie1973
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 Well, he did it. He got rediagnosed as having anxiety disorder, depression and an "inability to cope" whatever that means.

I am gobsmacked. How does this explain all of the obvious manic behavior....the anger.....I feel very betrayed right now by his doctors.
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10/25/2007 18:24
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 Did he tell you this? Or, did his doctor speak directly to you? The so=called reversed diagnosis sound like bp to me just broken down into segments. A bp can have it without hitting highs, too.

Anyway, good luck!

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10/25/2007 18:46
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 I am wondering how in the world he knew 'ahead of time'

that the diagnosis was going to be reversed. Sounds very

strange. How many doctors were involved in this 'reversal' of diagnosis??? One that has been treating him a long time or a new one?


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10/26/2007 02:56
carmen33
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 I am with the others, did he tell your or did his Doctors? I would not believe it till I spoke with the Doctor/Doctors myself, and seen what they have to show as evidence.

Carmen

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