How to deal with addicts

Today my ex comes at me at what I am willing to do if she fails this program. He expects me to just cut her out of everything, including seeing her child. WTF?? This is the same SOB that told these kids when I walked out on him that it was all their fault. The way he approached this subject was in an intimidating manner. He alienated his children after our split so I guess that his ideas are a resemblence of what he really is. Why does he think that I will cut her out of her childs life all together. Just because she has problems doesn't mean that she doesn't love this child. What would I be doing to her, her child, and myself by cutting her out to make him happy? Why is he so worried about this child now? Not once has he ever called and asked if this child needed anything. He didn't bother to try and step up and take care of him. From the way I am getting this, he wants me to punish her. I think that she is punishing herself enough to say that she doesn't need help.

When he takes this attitude, it makes me wish I had chosen someone else to father my children.......

I am sorry you are having to deal with your ex. I have an ex, too.

He made some decisions with my son, that were very selfish at one time, and I felt the same way. Mine moved out of state, and I haven't had to see him for a long time. It was such a relief.

I think you are doing a great job with your daughter, and your grandson.

Don't worry about him, you continue taking care of you. Your daughter is in a safe place, and she is getting help. Only a very sick person could blame their problems on a child.