My non bipolar boyfriend? Help him cope...

I have been dating the most wonderful man for about 2 1/2 months now. He's the best thing to ever happen to me.

The problem is that although he says he is familiar with bipolar disorder, he is not familiar with it being this close to him.

The last few days, I've been falling. I'm not sure if it's that I need a med update or what, but he sees it as well as I do.

He is having a hard time believing that it has nothing to do with him, or my feelings for him. He thinks that I am not as interested in him, mentally or physically. But it's not that at all. I'm not as interested in anything right now, but I still have love for him.

I appreciate him wanting to help and everything, but I don't know how to tell him that he can help. I also appreciate his concern, but it makes me feel even more guilty that he thinks that this is about him.

Can anyone help me give suggestions on what I can say to him to assure him that it's not about him?

It does sound like you are going through a low period right now. And as you said you may need a medical update...I would look into that...

I have read your posts and you sound like a caring person...who tries to see the best way to handle things...so, give yourself some credit for thinking this thing out....and explain to him that being bipolar means there are ups and downs in our feelings...and you might be on a down swing but, you are going to see about getting meds that will help...hugs to you, Norma

I just don't want to do anything to ruin our relationship, and I can already see that me taking this dip in my mood is taking a toll on him. He doesn't understand why it would happen, except that it would be his fault. But of course that isn't true. I adore him with all my heart. But now I feel even more guilty on top of feeling just plain down.