mbrento
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Today, my twice-admitted-to-the-mental-ward husband of six months -- diagnosed or self-diagnosed since his teens with a variety of mental disorders, including depression, ADHD, OCD, anxiety and, most recently, BP, nearly all of which he has later denied having -- told me he's divorcing me after six months of being married, and four years of knowing me, because I'm a pessimest and he's an optimist; that he has polled about "200" people and they all agree that I'm heinous and he's perfectly sane; and also that he's no longer attracted to me anyway and just wants to be friends. He then threw a vibrator at me as i was crying and removing some of my things from his room and told me, "Don't forget that." His story is that I'm so horrible to live with that he can't take it. My father has cancer and if anything, my husband's behavior has gotten worse since we found out. It's all I can do to make it through each day and my husband just keeps upping the ante on what I can take. It's my feeling that someone who is mentally stable doesn't go out of their way to make a bad situation worse, or to cause pain, or to throw a vibrator at someone who is crying. (despite everything, I do see the comic element) I know I need to move on, I know. It's just so hard. not the least of which reason is dealing with all the irrational behavior no one else seems to be aware of. He's very carefully building a case that I'm the enemy, and he's succeeding. Sure, I know he's wrong. But it's all so devastating. The only supposed "silver lining" is being rid of the chaotic situation, having peace in my life -- albeit without the person I was supposed to have a future with. And then the added burden of being perceived as ME being the "crazy" one. I know I can't worry about that though. Thanks for listening, everyone. |
