Bipolar Support Group

My husband is so moody and I am too. I feel like he will not chill out and let me be me. I do not know what to do. He said last night we should get marriage counseling and I am thinking divorce not counseling. Then when he was mad he said "You can get you own apartment all by yourself". He also says other cruel things when he is mad. I am tired of feel like I do not matter. I wonder is it the bipolar side of me who says get a divorce?

The chemistry is not there any more. We both talked about it. I cook for him and clean and other things. I just do not feel appreciated by him enough. Sometimes he gives me money and buys me things that I want or goes to the mall with me when I want him too but it's not enough. I am not satisfied. I know he does not care about certain things and he even said so to my face. He is too controlling. He tells me I don't run anything when I do.... the bills,finding the apartment for us to live in while he is at work, cooking, cleaning, and making sure he has whats he needs the most and that's love. I just forget about myself sometimes and always help others. Now I am exhausted and tired physically. I do not have my pdoc appointment until August 13. I just need some advice.

Maybe the two of you need some apart time to regroup and remember all the good things about your relationship. The counselling is a good idea, even if you do decide eventually to divorce. Divorce is painful in my experience.

Please try the counseling first. I say this looking back at my own mistakes. BTW I am Bipolar not my ex, even so I was the one acting like your husband does, I was the one with unrealistic expectations, and was not supportive of her at all in that she took care of the house and the kids and ME, she ALWAYS took care of me, and still I did not appreciate it, and I belittled her and looked to other women who had not had kids and who probably would not last 5 mins in her shoes. 2 times we made appointments to go to counseling and both times I backed out. My life would be better had I not, so please at least start there.

Good luck!

Post edited by: Wes, at: 07/20/2009 03:27 PM

Thanks! I am going to counseling really soon.

Ditto on the counseling.

Counseling is good idea. You have feelings for him just are not letting them rise because of your anger toward him. Thats my story and I am sticking with it..good luck