I Am A Bad Friend

As I stated in a previous post, I kept forgetting to take my p.m. dose of medication so I was extremely irritable. I hated everyone, I would fly off the handle at everything, I just new my coping skills and who I could tolerate being around. The friend that I am speaking about in the post. I can't be her around to much even when I am on medication. We just don't have enough in common. She says mean things on purpose. And sometimes, I wonder why I try. She told me that her husband said that if my daughter got more ass whippings she wouldnt be the way she is (she is bipolar). And she told me that she wasnt going to buy her son a good swing set because she was afraid the big kids were going to tear it up. She says things to my kids 'if i were your mom' GRRR..Her husband boss's them around constantly without a please or a thank you. F this F that every other word in front of them constantly

Ok, and I am worried about being a bad friend, ignoring her a lil..Not calling because I have gone off my rocker because I havnt taken my meds. If she was a lil more sensitive. She could call me and ask me if i was ok, and ask me if I needed something???? LMAO. Not, It's all me...One sided..

Ok, I need to call my Dr. I need some THERAPY!!!!!!!!

Amber

Sounds like it isn't you that is not a good friend. I've always thought you were a good friend! A true friend would be more patient and accepting of the whole you and all your moods.

She certainly shouldn't be telling you how to raise your kids - that's up to you, and if she doesn't like it, she needs to keep it to herself if she cares about you!

When reading your posts, I've always thought you sounded great! Hope you get the meds figured out!

Hugs,

Terri

Sounds like this person is more of an acquaintence than a friend. Someone that you know and have to deal with because they live in the neighborhood. Distance yourself...if you have to deal with this person because of close proximity...don't let things she says hurt you. I know that is hard, but you don't want her as a friend if she says mean things to you. She sounds immature and probably has problems of her own.

I have made friends in the past with people on occasion that have turned out to be jerks. It really made me wonder is it me or them. When people say hurtful things to you it is them. And a true friend is going to be sensitive to your feelings, an acquaintence doesn't care. Who wants to be friends with jerks??...sounds like this person falls in that category...And saying something to her probably will do no good...since she is insensitive...she won't understand what you are talking about.

A true friend is going to be there for you when you are down...

Hugs to you, Norma

Suggestion on forgetting meds, ask hubby to remind you (in a kind way), or just check with you to see you have taken them. My wife and I have an agreement, she makes sure I take my meds and I make sure she takes hers (2x/day).

On the ?friend... I have found that there are some people that are just so miserable that they cannot be happy unless they are dragging someone else into their missery. I do not usually condone the use of masking but... Be happy around this person, it totally removes their power over you. It may also piss them off so they don't want to interact with you because they cannot manipulate you with their behavior. Avoid if possible, if you cannot avoid find a defense mechanism, my favorite with this type of personality is happiness, they just don't know what to do with it. Also, let hubby run defense for you around her, I am sure he would not mind, especially if it is to your benefit.

Hoping your day gets better, HUGS TO YOU!

GOD BLESS

RED

You are not a bad friend. My son is bipolar. I don't spank my kids. I wouldn't allow anyone to talk to my kids that way. I also want my space, sometimes.

I don't think this lady is very respectul to you or your family. I have friends, that understand me. I have learned to communicate tio people about where, i am at. If they can't allow me to do what, i need to do to take care of me, and my family, than, I don't have to be around them. I have friends who are bipolar, who understand my behavior. I in turn understand them.

I put a big piece of paper on my cupboard where my meds are with a list of meds, and when, i need to take them. I have one for my son, too. I also have a note to myself outside on the porch, where, I smoke, and have coffee in the morning.

I go to therapy. It really helps me have a place to sort out out my stuff, and vent. I also write it out, and write down my moods. Italso helps me to get out and do work on my yard. This helps me get my frustration out.

I hope your day gets better.

Norma - I really feel that I would like her to be just an acquaintence. If she could accept it. I have many friends & she is the only one I ever have problems with on a regular basis?And when they no I am having problems, they call & make sure I'm ok or they call & ask if I need anything?She never does. And that is what my doctor asked, if she has called me?I said no. And she said well?She could have?I was going to call her today & apologize for being distant, but I couldn't make myself do it?I do this everytime. I feel like an idiot. I mean it's something I could avoid, If I would stop acting like a goober & remember my medication. She doesn't deserve the way I do her, but I don't deserve the way she treats me either?

OMG, I have gone from wanting to hurt people, to feeling like killing people, yelling at people on the phone, feeling like im having a nervous breakdown, being so unbelievably irritated, wanting to blow up my clinic with a bomb (if i even had access to one HAHA), now I feel like I am so drug down and tired & I just feel so weepy and I feel like I could just start sobbing and crying uncontrollably. All because I forgot to take my p.m. dose of meds for less than a week?????

I do this. I have been having a hell of a time with getting on the right meds. I have been up, and down for 1 year!! I have to hold up sometimes, and lay low. I try not to do everything in one day. I keep the stress low, and just do my priorities. Myself, my kids, and things that have to be done, today. I used to be busy all of the time,trying to keep up with the world, when, I was off my meds. So, I thought, I had to keep doing this when, I got on meds.

I just learned, lately, that when, I get depressed, and feel not good enough, I tend to project it on to other people, and then, I start picking on everyone else. I want to control everyone. When, I get aggitated, People bug the crap out of me. It's like having pms everyday!!....LOL. I get to the point where, I don't want to be around anyone. So, to save everyone, and myself, I keep to myself, and pace myself. I pray alot, too. Especially when, I have to deal with people. I stopped feeling guilty for having bipolar. I have my moods, and I just let them swing, and try not to react. I am really hoping for a medication, that will help me. I have got one for the mania, and one for the depression, but, not the mixed mania,rapid cycling.yuck!!

Hang in there.

GLORIA

She goes out of her way to put down my favorite stores..I mean like she will drag it on for 30 minutes. It's childish. When she knows they are my favorite stores. I don't care if she doesn't like them. State your opinion, shut the hell up about it. It's over. It takes a minute to say it.

She talks about the same things every time I see her. If I have heard it twice, I don't care to hear about it again. I'm just that type of person?I like to talk about different things?After the 20th time, Im done..Seriously come on!

I'm supposed to eat lunch with my husband at the shop. I told him if this girl's husband was there today, he will have to tell him to leave because I don't want him there. He said, he may just come home to eat today HAHAHA. He said that is just rude Amber. No, its not, its giving me and him, US TIME!Telling him to back off.

I'm going to get dressed & drink coffee with a friend hope everyone has a great day today!

Thanks for hanging with me!

I've been taking my meds religiously, and I'm starting to lose weight from it even HAHA

Amber