does my husband really hate me or is it bipolar

In other words it is now time for damage control. It was his choice to stop the meds. I wouldn't talk to him, just get some support. He has abandoned you and the children.

He is acting childish and immature...these may be the manifestation of bipolar disease but, nontheless, he has responsibilities he is supposed to live up to as a father and a husband. If he does not then you need to protect yourself and your children. Financially and emotionally it will be up to you to make sure that the home is stable...

Welcome, I am glad you found us. Your husband doesn't hate you. It's his illness taking over. You are better off letting him do what he is going to do. You can't do anything about. He has to get to the place where he makes the decision to get help.

The kids are better off not having to be around his behavior. Kids learn from their parents about how to treat eachother.

As Norma said you have to take care of you and your kids. You can set boundaries with himabout how you want him to behave toward you, and the kids, too. Have you looked into getting help for you? It might help you get support on how to cope with his illness.

Also, research all you can about this illness. It helps alot.

I am sorry you are going through this. Hang out here. There is alot of support on this forum from people with bipolar, and those like you, who are spouses, and loved ones of bipolars.