stuck

Every time I push the issue he tells me a new story (he has had 5 different closing dates!) He tells me I am being mean & unreasonable and ... a new one... petty! just because I want to get on with my life.

Thanks for all your helpful hints, they are all good ideas & make me feel better, even if I can't actually follow thru with them, at least you are all pulling for me

I know I will feel a whole lot better when I can FINALLY CLEAN MY HOUSE

I just asked my fiance about you would have to do about your ex. He said you have to give him a 3 day notice of eviction, and then go to court. he will have 30 days to get. If he doesn't leave, then you can call the sheriff, to escort him off the property.

I really didn't believe closing date #6 was real...but

it WAS

Anyway...90% of his stuff is out of here and the rest will be

tomorrow.

I am relieved and sad at the same time. It has been

a long time coming..the way he was behaving as if these were the

best days of his life and he didn't have a care in the world

was just becoming unbearable. No emotions attached to me, our

life we had together all those years, or the divorce.

He is such a nice person when he is OK, but he's allowing this

disease to run and getting sucked into alcoholism too.

Our daughter played with her friends all day. Ignoring the fact that

her Dad was carting his belongongs away. I am a little concerned over

her lack of concern. Her therapist has told me, everyone handles

grief in their own way, but it was wierd.

Anyway...I CLEANED THE HOUSE and it seems so much larger without

his 'collections' and boxes stuffed all over the place. I had to empty

the vaccuum cleaner two times there was so much dust cat & dog hair

Yikes! Tomorrow I start painting the rooms. hehe

Thanks to everybody for helping me thru these past weeks and months.

You are all so nice.

I told my therapist how lonely and isolated living with my husband was for such a long time and when I found this forum it helped me to realize

I really wasn't alone in this.

Have a Happy Easter this weekend too

Just keep an eye on daughter, she will eventually neet to deal with this outwardly. Until then just keep giving her HUGS!

The hard part of painting... picking out the colors.

God Bless your home and all that enter.

RED

And I will keep an eye on my daughter.

I know she might be acting like she doesn't care, while

she really does, and I don't want her to have problems

later on.

I know all about that because my mother had depression

and things were not good when I was a kid. I know people

make the jokes about how psychiatrists 'blame the parent'

for the adult children's problems later in life, but I do

believe there is some truth to that. I have been in therapy

off & on for many many years. Even though I also understand that as an adult, I make my own choices and decisions, there is that

undercurrent of lack of self confidence I just can't shake

bacause if a lot of stuff I went thru as a child.

Take care

You may even look into counciling for her too. This will help her to deal with what she will be going through.

God Bless

RED

I know the saddness of the final break is hard. I was married for 24 yrs and never thought I would be divorced. I just had to put it behind me and consider it a life experience.

Hope you find happiness and peace.