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I am new to this group & joined because I thought it might help. A little about me: I was diagnosed bipolar type 1 about 10 years ago. Saught help & got it from a doctor & meds. Quit seeing the doctor & quit taking meds 4 or 5 months ago. Everything seems okay & have been doing well to control my moods on my own. My problem that I want an opinion or advice: Story first: I work for my family's business. It is a stressful job to say the least. Last year I heard about a job opportnity for another company doing basically my same job that I'm doing now. At the time I was encouraged by my family to check it out & apply. I applied & the company decided that they were going to hold off hiring. A couple of weeks ago, I got an email from the company askig if I was still interested in the job. I told them yes & set up an interview for next week. Now, my family is kind of freaking out about it. It mostly has to do with our main customer possibly getting angry about me entertaining the idea that I may go to work for this other company. Sounds dumb, but here's more. The company I have an interview with is a major competitor of my family's current main client. My family seems to think that the main client is going to get pissed off & cut them off. We have no contract for business & whenever we work to get other clients, we have to make sure with our main client that it's okay. Again, sounds dumb, but that's the way it is. This is now taking a toll on me emotionally & I'm getting to be depressed & thinking about all the what if's. I don't want to hurt my family's business, but I have to do what's best for me right? This job would mean much more money & the possibility of a bright future. I am so conflicted & it's eating at me. Anyone have any opinion or advice? Sorry the story was long. |
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norma
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WELCOME,,,I am bipolar and so is my son, who works for us...he was on meds for a long time...quit taking them...and did well for about 1 year. Last Nov, he had a real bad, episode...when he was getting sick he wanted to change jobs...he is glad he didn't...anyway, i don't know how this relates to your position. Sitting down and talking to your family is the best thing...also, make sure the stress of this move doesn't trigger an episode...that happens sometimes...also, might be that they are trying to hire you because of the business competition...give you a high salary for a while then dump you...it happens. "In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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Hi puttputt, Welcome, I am glad you found us. I decided to not take meds 5 yrs ago,and just got sicker, and sicker. You need to do what is best for you and not worry about what other's think. God Bless,Gypsy
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Could it be that company X is using you to steal your families best client? Unless youre 100% sure of their intentions, I wouldnt take that chance. Just my humble oppinion. |
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They are just a straight up competitor of the retailer that we currently represent. |
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The most stress that I am having is with my family. 10 months ago, the company that I have an interview with ask one of my suppliers if they knew of anyone that could be suited for their position. THe supplier then ask my dad if he thought I'd be interested. So, my father told me about it & proceeded to tell me to apply. So, I did & the company decided to hold off on hiring. Well, about 2 weeks ago I get an email from the company asking if I was still interested ( reply from my original email). I told them yes & that's where we are at today. Now my father is acting weird & basically discouraging me with his comments. Plus he thinks it's going to hurt his business in some way. Working for my dad is extremely stressful & it puts a lot of strain on our relationship. THe only good thing is that we are seperated by 2000 miles in different state. otherwise, he & I would be at each other's wits end. So, he's the one that's making me feel bad. I don't want to bail on him, but I have my own family to support & he can't offer me the money that the other company can. I felt so good this morning for the lack of sleep that I had gotten & he started in on me & it's been hard for me to get into a non-depressive mood. So, that's my problem today. |
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norma
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So let me understand, you were diagnosed BP, on meds for a long time, and 4-5 mos ago stopped the meds. And the competitor of the retailer that your family business(who trained you, correct)depends is trying to hire you...is that right? And your Dad originally encouraged you to apply and now is not as supportive of that move?? Post edited by: norma, at: 03/12/2008 16:59 "In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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Whoa Nelly...sounds like dad is trying to use a little guilt blackmail on you!!! Shame on him... You said it yourself...he can't offer the same money and YOU have a family to support too. I'd say, there's all the excuse you need for leaving....if ya need an excuse!!!! Have ya asked dad if he could match the wages of the other firm?? Is there a reason you are not a partner and sharing the profit and losses of dad's company?? Is it an understood that you will inherit the business if anything happens to dad?? Just seems funny to me that his son is treated like any other employee.. If you don't want to answer I understand....these are just questions that are nagging at me here. Gloria
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Gloria brings up several good points you might want to consider...will your Dad match the money??? Can he afford to??? I might add you might be worth more money to a competitor...to hurt your family's business. I am in business and can tell you it is a war..sometimes, competition...is fierce. But, I may be misunderstanding the situation. About the meds, might be a good time for a check-up...talk to the doctor or a therapist...just to make sure all is ok with you. My son quit his meds and was great for months and then had a very bad episode...during which he wanted to change jobs. He is fine now...but during that time before the meds took effect...he could hardly function at work. So getting an check up at the doc before changing jobs might not be a bad idea...changing jobs can be stressful...hope this helps you. "In the time of your life, live-so that in that wondrous time you shall not add to the misery and sorrow of the world, but, shall smile to the infinite variety and mystery of it." William Saroyan
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As usual, I totally misread your post. I think you should be stable on meds before making any major decisions. The stress has probably triggered your bp. psk |
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