Will it ever change?

Her mom and dad are no help. As long as they allow her to run to them and hide from this illness she will never get better. They are like my wife and are not excepting that there is anything wrong. It makes me so mad that they are not helping her face this illness but allowing her to act like she is fine.

While in the hospital they changed her meds. She says she does not like the new meds and is not taking them now. She said she told her mom and dad this and they told her that is fine you dont have to take them if you dont want to. Why would you as a parent allow you child to not do what is going to help them. I dont understand.

I realize that she needs someone to blame her troubles on I am just tried of that always being me. When she is ok she is the greatest person you have ever met. She has a way of making you think things are fine when they are not. I have come to see past her acting. I wish everyone else could aswell. I feel as if I am fighting a losing battle and there is no end in sight. I dont know what to do. If I give up I know her family will not force her to get the helpshe needs. But I dont know how much longer I can keep being treated this way.

I know she has to except this illness before she can get help. But as I said when her family allows her to hide from it she has no motive to except it. What can I do? What should I do? I know I have to take care of myself. Thats not the answer I am looking for. I want to know how I help her. How do I get her to face this? How dod I get her family to help her face this? Will this ever change? Will we ever be happy?

Gloria

they are on a self destructive path. There is nothing you can do once you have pointed out your concerns, and offered suggestions.

A person can only be helped when they themselves recognize there is a problem and they want to work at getting well.

Welcome. I am glad you found us.

This is a very hard illness to live with. I am bipolar, and am in a relationship. I have been off of meds for most of this relationship.

I finally got on meds 11 mos ago. We had a lot of problems, but, I didn't know, i was part of them. No one could tell me I was bipolar, until, I was ready to here it. I don't even know, how, I got through my life.

It sounds like your wife is very sick. If she ended up in the hospital because of being suicidal, that is really serious.

I think she will eventually hit rock bottom, and if she is with her family when it happens it will be very convincing. This illness just gets worse. It is good you are out of the way. I suggest you take time out for you, and get help. Meanwhile you can let go and allow her and her family to live out their insanity.

There is nothing you can do to make her or her family see anything.

Hang in there, we are here for you.

I understand your pain. My live in boyfriend is bi polar. I know how you feel like you wish you could just shake them really hard to make them see and make them be normal ALL THE TIME, your wife has some serious issues like my boyfriend. but i tell you this it is a blessing that she is able to be with her parents right now my advice to you is just continue to be a loving supportive husband from afar. and maintain your relationship with your wife while she is at her parents house. she will probably continue to go back and foorth between both houses, its really sad but nothing can make her change only she has to want it. ANd everyone tells YOU DONT ENABLE dont be an enabler well its so hard not to be. Its hard not to be there with open arms for the one you love the most in the whole world that is how I feel towards my boyfriend. maybe as a child she showed signs of bipolar and her parents did exactly what they are doing now ignoring it my boyfriends parents do that as well. so basically unfortunatly i have realized there is nothing a wife or husband or mother of father of a bi polar can do. Except just be supportive and understanding.

and take it day by day.

lynn

The saying comes to mind..."I gave all I had, I gave all I was and finally I realized the only thing I had left to give was up". Let go, let god. I know its frustrating to have your hands tied. You cant MAKE people do anything. You can MAKE people see anything. All you can do is keep yourself healthy and remind them you are there.