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03/05/2008 13:40
2sides
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Hello to everyone I am new at this today is the second time I log in. I have a question to asked to does that have bipolar Is it normal to feel like cheating at times I love my husband alot we been married for 2 years knowing him for 10 years I am 25 years old I hate myself because i have moments when i want to see other people and get attention is like an addiction that i need to feel good i love him but i get bored and fee anxious I do not sleep with no one else but i do go out on dates with other guys friends what should i do is really hard for me to stop ? and i dont want to lose my husband. [size=4][/size]

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03/05/2008 13:52
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2sides, STOP THAT!!! Cheating is cheating PERIOD!!!!!Are you diagnosed bipolar? Are you on meds? Do you speak with a couselor? No matter...you are responsible for your actions. You know right from wrong and don't even need to ask if it is wrong. You want to go on dates....get a divorce and be single again. Would you be OK with your husband dating other women? If so......you 2 are in trouble.

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03/05/2008 13:53
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2sides,

I cheated on my husband in a manic episode. Having said that, though, I don't think that bipolar makes people want to cheat. I wanted to cheat before I was manic, I just had the reckless abandon that I needed to actually do it when I was manic. I think the need to be desired comes from something deeper, something that goes back a long time. I know I had to face up to my issues with my dad, with the fact that no matter what I seemed to do, I couldn't gain his love, which in turn made me seek out men by the dozen. Mostly, I just strung them along and teased teased teased. You said it yourself in your post - you want to get attention and you need to feel good. That goes beyond bipolar. What you need to do now is figure out what motivates you to seek this kind of attention from other men. Do you have a counselor? This would be a wonderful topic to discuss with one...

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03/05/2008 13:56
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BTW, welcome to the site, we are very glad to have you here! Keep posting and keep us updated...you will find so many people here that care and want to help...
In learning to know other things, and other minds, we become more intimately acquainted with ourselves, and are to ourselves better worth knowing.
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03/05/2008 13:57
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This seems to be the theme of the day. Responsibility. A bipolar diagnosis does not excuse unacceptable behavior. If you continue with this behavior, he will eventually find out and you will lose him. You will find plenty of help and support on this site. But accountability is part of the deal as well. You said you love your husband. Love is a verb. You must do loving things to keep a relationship together. Dating other men is not loving your husband.
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03/05/2008 14:03
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Hello 2 sides..Welcome...Im bipolar 1 dx 3 years ago.... Just because a person has bipolar does not give the person to do whatever they want to DOoooo and blame it on the bipolar.......WE can still make choices which sometimes its hard to do,but we have that right to do so. We dont choose the illness but can choose Who we want to be with in our lives...If you love your husband then you should not want to go off and wander elsewhere....Hugs Southern10

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03/05/2008 14:09
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03/05/2008 14:50
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Hip hip hooray to my fellow posters here. 2sides...listen up!!

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03/05/2008 15:01
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I engaged in wreckless behaviors when I was abusing street drugs. I cheated on my husband and almost lost the best thing I ever had. Not all husbands are as forgiving. Being BP is not an excuse to get away with whatever you want. I greatly regret some of the decisions I made while I was using. If you are "dating" other men then there are issues in your marriage. I would suggest that you consult a therapist in order to figure out what exactly you want to do with your marriage.
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03/05/2008 15:50
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2sides, welcome to the group, you know the difference between right and wrong, so you know what you should be doing and what you should not be doing, I believe it was peter who asked, how would you feel if your husband was doing this? would it hurt you? unless you are both in a agreement to have a open marriage, (open marriages allows for both people to have relationships outside the marriage) dating and sleeping with others is not the way to keep a marriage.
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