Bipolar Support Group

I've had Bi-polar a very long time but I was diagnoised with it in 1997, after I wrecked my whole life. I lived in a family that didn't want to talk about anything. Don't talk about it or the neigbors might find out about it. I'm 50 years old now. I've been married 2 times. I have an adopted 9 year old daughter. I worked for one company from 1978 to 1995, that is when I started having a lot of trouble again. Since then I've had 17 diffrent jobs and for the last 4 years, I haven't worked at all. I filed for Disability but they wouldn't approve me so I finally got an attorney and they told me to file again, and I did and they approved me but now they are wanting to take it away from me. They said the stories didn't match. Has anyone else had a simular incident that you would like to share with me. I'd like to know what happened.

Hey John and welcome to the group, I am glad you are here with us, but sorry that you have had to suffer with this illness, what do they mean that the "stories" don't match? this sounds like a good thing for your attorney to look into as it sounds like a crock to me, I don't have any personal experience in this, but I believe some of the others might, and they can offer you some help...

Hi John,

Welcome. I hope you enjoy being here as much as I do.

I am waiting for my disability hearing right now. I have a lawyer too , so maybe there is hope. I would investigate this situation. Maybe you can get more support from your pdoc. I would also ask them what doesn't match up.

I went to MHMR for over 10 years and they will not help me as for as my disability goes. The doc will not even fill out the paper work for my disabilty, so I changed doc's and now I'm still paying for a doc that is refusing to help me with my disability. My attorney said that if they do not fill out the paperwork, the judge has a right to supenia them. I thought these doc's are suppost to be helping you. I'm just fed up with throwing away money I don't have for nothing.

The disability people should have sent them a form to fill out, and they would have sent it back to them, I know that when Glenn applied for his, he had to have forms, filled out by each of his doctors..and they in turn sent them back to the SSI, your attorney can and should request this information, this is the reason you fill out all those release forms, I think Glenn had to fill out 20 or more releases, this allows not only your attorney but the SSI people as well to get information on your medical history..

As for helping you? they can't call up SSI and tell them he needs the disability all they can do is answer their questions and give them their findings based on medical knowledge.. I know of a doctor out here that for 500.00 bucks you can get him to say anything you want him too, most of the time you will have had to go to their doctor in addition to the records they get from your personal ones..

John,

When you file for disability, you sign an authorization form so that the docs can release the information. The State does pay for it, if the doc charges a fee. If the doc does not give the info, then they would set up a consultative exam with a doc to get the info that they need. A claim cannot be denied on the basis that your doc will not give the info. In working at SS, I never really saw many doc's refusing to provide the info. They are your medical records, and you did authorize the doc to provide the info.

amy

Ok, I have an explanation if anyone can give me one about my bp boyfriend.Or, maybe I already know it, but wanna hear it from someone else to.

Is it normal for a person to flip flop what they say and want. He'll tell me everything he wants us to do together when he starts making more money ;then, be real distant. Let's move in together he says, he said it twice, and he's cooled off about it, and know he's gonna say again for us to move in together, the question is just when is he going to say it.. He let some bitch kiss him at the new years eve party we went to, was outraged at me for being upset about it, and he was drinking when this happened and taking his medication along with it. I have heard that you can't take the medication and drink cause it'll cause the episodes to be worse. Last night, he just appologized for new years eve, said it'll never happen again, he's sorry, he was drunk, and when he drinks too much he gets mean, but I think the episode gets even more severe when he drinks.Ok, so I go over to his family's house today, call him later, he said in a few months or so we are going to go see his Daughter in Chicago, and I said oh you and your girls, and he said and me you too, and I thought wow... He goes into these modes where he says he doesn't know what he wants, we are friends, I am the closest thing he has come to a serios relationship and isn't ready yet ;then, appologizes the next night for new years eve, blah blah blah, but has expectations of me as a girlfriend and we are sleeping together.... Last night, a few of the friends that he thought are his friends really showed they're true colors, and he said I am just thankful for the friends I do have, me, and he named a few of our other friends. Now, I read in the forum a month ago or so that when this woman's husband was in an episode that he'd ask for a divorce, rant, rave ;then, the doorbell rang and he was fine...I am wondering if my boyfriend is doing more rapid cycling, or if this talk that he does about us being friends and all and then the other talk is normal. I know he slips in and out of reality, and half the time he really isn't in reality. Trying to figure out if he's going into a manic mode, or a normal mode where in a normal mode he's balanced and everything is steady, but he doesn't change his language the next day about things. I know he's in a transition. The depression mode lasted longer than usual which was 2 months, so I know his episodes are getting longer, more intense. He's on medication, but not sure if he's taking it right, he's not suppose to be drinking...

This is always such a hard thing to figure out.

First I can tell you that way before I was diagnosed I was terrified of being alone. I would cling to anyone who would let me but of course it never lasted because i either didn't love them, i would scare them off or they were just not my type.

I know I did and said alot of things to try to keep these people in my life as well. I even got married to a guy, I knew i didn't love him but thought no one else would ever have me. That only lasted a little over a year. I don't even remember the wedding day...lol

I diffently flip flop even now. I will want to go and do paintball (which I love) with my bf and within minutes sometimes I will be like no it's ok you need your space too. Meanwhile he is just floored because he is the one that asked me to go. It's really hard to say what is real and what is not unfortunatly. you have to go with your head on this one.

Does he see a therapist or just a pdoc? Maybe you should go with him once or twice see if you can get this brought up while your there.

I know that is what I done before...cause I couldn't see that the guy I was seeing that wanted to take care of me and love me, was really a severe control freak and even argued with the docs about all this just being in my head. Needless to say I booted his sorry ass, but the point is I just couldn't see it. I know I'm being long winded but trust yourself, that is the best thing you can do not just with someone with bp but with anybody.

Hope this helps some.

Hollie