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I feel like I am going freakin' insane in the membrane. I have came to the conclusion that my 9 year old daughter is going thru puberty & has been for awhile. I am not sure I will make it out alive. Well, I suppose I will, but it sure feels like pure hell. She just gets more hateful by the day!!!!!!!OMG.

My boiling point is paper thin. It is all just building up. She cries, whines, gripes, has excuses for everything, disagrees like you wouldn't believe, SO argumentative it's unreal.

I am on Seroquel XR 50mg, Pristique as an anti-depress. & I take Klonopin for anxiety. I'm not sure if the most sanest person could handle my daughter, or if it is just me and my irritability level just can't handle the shit that is happening?

Evvvvery single day, it is the same thing. WANT WANT WANT, I GIVE GIVE GIVE. Ask a few simple things from her and it is a full blown temper tantrum just to get her to put her shoes away????????????

Is this really my life?Is this really my child?OH MY FREAKING GOSH.

What do people take for irritableness??(is that a word???)I feel like I am going thru the terrible 2's again and she is going to be 10 in 6 months. I just want to go into a sound proof box right now and scream all kinds of obscene things. That is how frustrated I am right now.

OK< I guess Im done.

Amber

You could take her to a child psychologist. I talked to a retired one, and he dealt with cases like your daughter all the time. As a longrun situation, I think that would be the best option.

I was taking her to therapy religiously, but I quit because they were insistant on medication. I'm at a point thinking 'does she NEED medication' or is she just going thru puberty. I don't have the answers & I just don't no what to do. She has an appt with the therapist that she was seeing this month. So, patiently awaiting for her to be back into that.

I would definately consider having your daughter seen by a psychologist again just to eliminate anything. Perhaps some blood work may be in order. Before I was diagnosed with all of my crap Biploar and GAD, I was tested for thyroid problems which can lead to behavior issues (perhaps this could be your daughters problem) this is an easy fix. I worked as a social worker for a couple of years, and I know that its tough espicially since you have your own diagnosis, but hang in there.

My daughter started puberty last year at 10 ~ I wasn't prepared for it cause well I guess I still wanted her to be a little girl. It's been challenging for me because she's so moody now and I catch a mood in a minute. I have both of my children in therapy, mainly because I've been battling with psychological issues all my life. I definitely agree with having her in therapy, not only for her, but also for you too. I was having a difficult time with my son when he was acting out, and the therapist helped me to understand what is part of child development, what is acting out of frustration over having a sick mom or what is me, like maybe I'm cycling. It's been a blessing to have her.

I'm all for the therapy thing, too, even if it means medications for your daughter. THink of it as stabilizing your daughter and making life more normal than it would be otherwise. I might have avoided so much of my manic nonsense if my own parents had done something for me early in life.

I have a very open honest relationship with my son and my daughter. I have never kept any of my conditions secret or quiet. As soon as I thought my son and daughter could handle the discussion, (they were 10 and 13, now they are 17 and 20) I talked to them about being aware of their own feelings, thoughts and actions. To realize that there is a big big chance that they might end up with depression, anxiety disorder or bipolar. I know this because I'm the 4th daughter out of five children and 4 of us are on medication for bipolar, depression and/or anxiety disorder. Talking with your children, family and friends about your condition helps. Take your daughter back to the doctor, get her evaluated again...let her know it is going to be okay.

I went thru puberty at 9 and so did my daughter. It was no picnic. Lots of mouth....well from MY daughter. I am pretty sure if I saw my mother on the street that I'd run and hide in the bushes. I wasn't mouthy because I'd get beat. My kids are mouthy, throw fits, argue with me, raise their voice to me...lol...why? because they CAN. I don't hit my kids. They don't live in fear of me. It's a trade off. A friend of mine's kid (who is 17) was in my car one night with Katy and I - she was SO respectful. Calls me Miss Angie and Katy - Miss Katy. Says please and thank you. When she got out, Katy said man you can tell she gets beat. I said, WHAT? lol. When I was talking to my friend -sure enough. She said she beat her ass every chance she got while she was growing up. It has been frustrating dealing with my kids. I wasn't raised this way. But then again, that's the POINT. Good luck Amber, it will get better.

Post edited by: bejeweled, at: 04/09/2009 21:11

Hi momof2rugrats,

Our daughter is a few years older than yours and has gone through the same.

I think it may be attributed to puberty or just trying to test our patience...At this point, I think it's normal behavior for their age...

Stand your ground and let her know who the parent is in the relationship!!!

I've realized the more we give, the more they want...

No worries...Hugs!!!