Flip Flopping behavior with bp disorder?

My Boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, it'll be 2 years in July. He flip flops alot, every other month, and I just have started to write down everything that has happened, luckily I remember and where I don't ;then, there are notes. He'll tell me he loves me for a month or a month in a half, we talk about moving in together, ;then, he cools down;then, he cools off for a bit ;then, he starts back up ;then, cools off again, and I am waiting for him to start up again about how much he loves me, how he wants us to live together... I have read that part of the symptoms is a loss of feelings for others, and he defintely has that...

The past year in a half, he has really flip flopped, he changes what he wants every other month, every month. One of the signs of this disorder is the person has a hard time making decisions.

He told me from the beginning that he has all these feelings tugging at him, is afraid he may hurt me, doesn't want to hurt me, has strong feelings for me ;then, said but not sure about the sex, we do alot of the same things. Then it was that we don't get along good enough ;then, it was that we don't have enough in common....

April of 06, told hm I just want to spend more time with him, and he said he can't do that right now, and knows that I want something else. We had a big fight, he said he can't give me what I want right now, told him of course you can't give me what I want, you don't even love me, and he told me don't tell him that he doesn't.We fought, and a little later I thought things were fine, he told me he didn't mean to hurt me, he woke up the next day pissed off, and emails me later that day says he doesn't love me, doesn't feel that way, and sorry if I can't get that.

Memorial Day, went over there, told me he's in love with me, wants to take the next step, wants us to get married, but thinks we should first live together, I agreed, but said let's wait till next summer. Mid July, he started to change again ;then, around October he started to warm up again and started talking about us moving in together, being together in 20 years, talking about where are we gonna move to. He wanted to move in sooner and I told him I want to do this right, let's wait till the summer...

Now I read that it takes a person a whole month to make a transition from one mode to another, so now that I think about it, it was around my bday in November that he started to change again. We went over to his friend's house, his friend asked if we have talked about marriage, said no, asked if I want to, and I said yeah if it were to happen sure, he asked the bf, and he said he trusts me enough to marry me.Then we leave his friend's house, bf made some sly remark in order to start a fight, I replied don't start with me, or else I'll fix you, and he said yeah baby bring it. Thanksgiving, we spent it with my Mom, and when we got home he said he isn't in a hurry to find someone, that pissed me off cause we are planning on moving in together, and he says this ;then, next morning he says he said he wasn't in a hurry to find someone till he met me and I misheard him. Then we are talking about where to move to in the summer...December around the 5th, he seems to have transformed into another phase, he said till things get some issues get resolved ;then, he thinks that we should postpone moving in together. We go to this party before the 5th and he let's some woman kiss him, told me that was for my benefit, told her to keep her hands off him.

We go over to his parents house for xmas, they introduce me as his girlfriend, and we leave their and he just seems all over the place, he said he doesn't know what he wants...

Before New Years, he told me he knows that I am afraid that he's gonna leave, but he's never going to leave me, and when he's ready to move forward ;then, he'll let me know,and he knows that I'll be ready,and he wants to be with me forever.Then denied he said any of it later.

Go to a New years eve party, and he let some woman again kiss him, we got into a fight about it, he said he doesn't think I should go to the parties with him anymore cause I get jealious, told him no, but why do you take me to these parties if this is how your gonna behave? We have had a few arguements last month, and think the last one was a few weeks ago and it was about certain friends of his, told him I hope they know to stay away from me, and he said I have a problem with his friends and he can't be with someone that has a problem with his friends and if he can't talk about his friends, well I don't have a problem, but there has been a few incidents. I don't have a problem with his friends, I am friends with some of them as well, so it's not that I have a problem with them, I just want some respect from them which my friends respect him..

He said that he's not sure what he wants, doesn't want me waiting for him forever, he doesn't feel the same way about me, doesn't want to have a serious relationship now and not sure if he ever wants one, some things he says goes over my head,and he needs someone that is on the same level as him, cares for me very deeply, and said that he's not gonna say things are more than what they are right now...

We are sleeping together, we spend the holidays together, birthdays. He asks me who am I talking to when I am on the phone, has expectations of me that you have of someone in a relationship, but he flip flops alot, I have the notes to prove it, but thing is he's never really said anything he just shifts and depending on his phase depends on what he says what we are, he's NEVER said this isn't working. He says well we are close friends and his latest is best friends, so I have moved up a notch, but it is what it is. I'm not desperate, not dislusional, not imagining that something is there that isn't. I think his parents go along with whatever he says cause they don't want a confrontation with him, and they said I am a good friend to him, or maybe that's just what his mom said and he didn't say anything to her, but depending on what phase he's in he alternates. I know he's gonna bring up about moving in together sometime soon or in a month or so, this is his pattern, and think the next time he brings it up, I am gonna say let's do it now. I want to be with him, I know he's not looking for someone else, or can I say cheating or can't I cause sometimes he won't say or admit that this is a relationship, but I want him here.I hate when he leaves my apartment or I leave him. I know if something wasn't there ;then, he wouldn't be sleeping with me and that he'd make it clear that this is just a friendship, but he doesn't, he goes all over the map if you know what I mean. I read one post in the forum that when this woman's husband would say he doesn't want to be married to her anymore and he wants a divorce and this was when he was in one of his phases.

I tend to write notes, do whatever for the period of time that the bf is all over the map ;then, when he settles down, wants to be close and things just fall back into talking about moving in together, I love you. I'm just thinking, the bi polar is the reason why he flip flops, also the fact that he's had failed romances, and he knows this, but thinks it's his anxiety, but it's deeper and more embedded than that, he told me in late September that he hopes that he hopes the medication helps him with his anxiety of relationships and hopes it makes things better for us in a sense. Can anyone give me some feedback. I know what it is, but it's upsetting at times, and I have learned to just stay neauteral or in a certain mode cause he tends to come out of his phase when I do, but his bp seems to be progressing more, getting more severe, episodes seem to be more intense when you don't know you just cracked an egg shell, and his comment is my intention isn't to hurt you, I'd never intentionally hurt you.