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Someone I know is making me really uncomfortable and making extreme sexual remarks to me. It has gone beyond harmless flirting into actually soliciting me for favors.

I don't know how to properly respond to this. It scares me and even though my marriage is less than stellar, I really don't need a creepy guy messing it up.

I removed myself from the yahoo group we were in together. He is a referee on the roller derby team, and I was going to skate last winter but didn't. He then used his position with the derby to find my email address (which is through gmail) and add me on Google+ which I do not use (nor do I know how) but I feel incredibly violated with him following me around online like that. He added me on Google+ about 20 minutes after I left the group. I got the email notification that he had added me but I don't use that service so I don't know what I am actually sharing???

How do you respond when someone makes you feel uncomfortable in this way? I tried standing up for myself and it got me nowhere, but I know I wasn't very firm.

Where is the line between being firm with someone, and being a total jerk?

I don't know if I should notify his supervisors at the roller derby about this. Sometimes I feel like people who go racing to the people in charge are just attention seeking.

I hate that my mental illness makes it so hard for me to make distinctions like this. I feel like my illness makes me very vulnerable to predatory people.

Post edited by: rodey, at: 07/05/2012 03:21 PM

I wouldn't worry about being a total jerk to this guy because he is being a total jerk to you. IMHO the best thing you can do is to just tell him flatly that you are not interested in him, and that if he continues to annoy you you are going to tell both your husband and his supervisors. Sometimes people just won't give up until they actually hear a firm "no".

Hope this helps.