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Full-on Manic, HELP!! How do I respond helpfully?


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01/30/2008 04:13
maisey
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 ..because I have already blown it!!

Please help--the MANIA is there and he's med free. Therefore, I need to know how to handle it as best I can. His voice even sounded different to me and it scared me. I am in no danger at all--but I can handle it well or badly and I have no idea what I am doing...!!!

Please help if you can!
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01/30/2008 09:01
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 go get help. take meds if you have them. find some positive, productive thing to do. i clean the bath tub when i get out there.

if you are really bad off call your health care person, a family member or friend who understands and tell the you are "out there".

Understand this is your brain and not a separate thing. meds help. Hope you will be ok.

I enjoy each precious day.

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01/30/2008 09:03
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 Are you the one that is having the episode, or is it your SO?
In learning to know other things, and other minds, we become more intimately acquainted with ourselves, and are to ourselves better worth knowing.
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01/30/2008 18:00
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 SO (or something similar, but not exactly)--he's a long distance away. He's trying life med-free and won't take them. Thinks he needs to work through emotions on his own (he was so over medicated for a long time that he I think he feels he doesn't even know his own feelings).

My question is how do "I" handle him when he's like this? What are good things versus bad things to say to him?
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01/30/2008 18:05
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 Another thing too--as much as I'd like to think I am helping, I am a trigger for him. Not his ony trigger, just one of many.
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01/30/2008 18:22
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 maisey there comes a point, when a bipolar won't take meds and does not accept the mania or depression, and it depleting your quality of life that your simply must let go. You cannot say or do anything to make this man better. He has to want it for himself, period.

I am BPII and I have always wanted treatment or support, but most of us are generally the other way. I have friends that go through this periodically and I just have to give them space until they come around but sometimes I just have to let them go.

You come first maisey.

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01/30/2008 20:57
maisey
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 Yes, I agree with you Dee. Thanks.

What I as hoping to get advice on was what were bad things to say and what were good things to say? Is there something I could avoid talking about? What things do non-bipolars say when they want to help but really only hurt or alienate the person suffering with mania?
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01/31/2008 03:53
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 Hi Maisey- I know with my ex if he is all manic if I bring up any of his

negative behaviours it will make him worse. It was as if I had to let him finish his 'whatever destructive thing(s) he was doing' or it escalated.

Then, when he was over it days, weeks, later, he would reluctantly talk about it, and apologize.
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01/31/2008 04:19
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 Ugg...i hate mania. I have learned never to disagree, never to not be supportive and i listen much more than i talk at this time! I always let him know I am there for him and regardless of what nastiness he says to me or how overinflated his ego is, i just let it go. I dont know what the "right" thing to do is, I just know what makes things worse for me. I never recommend meds or tell him he is doing wrong. As sky said, it escalates. Good luck to you!
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02/06/2008 03:03
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 Thank you very much, Heather and Sky!!
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