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I am so frustrated! My own husband doesn't even believe anything I tell him anymore. He just told me that I make things up in my head and I don't! All I want from him is to be on my side for once. He has let his own family say and do shitty things to me and the minute I want to defend myself. He tells me I would be making trouble! Is this right? I don't think it is. Its like I don't have any feelings and I don't deserve any respect from any one. And I don't know why. I feel like he just wants me around to make himself look like he has it all. I am beginning to believe that he really does not love me that all this time with him is just for when he wants something g from me. That's not a marriage. I feel like a toy to him!

First of all, you have every right to feel the way you do. A large part of letting your partner know how you feel is communication. Do you calmly explain how you're feeling and why or do you let things build up inside and then burst out in anger? Also, have you considered seeing a therapist?

I would suggest marriage counseling to help you communicate better and find out what is going on with the two of you. I'm sorry you feel this way. You do have feeling and deserve respect. Defending yourself is normal for when you feel like someone is attacking you. I hope that this can get turned around soon.

I am seeing a new therapist tomorrow. I have been trying to find a therapist since I got put of the hospital on April 20 2012. My insurance is what has ben in my way. Pretty sad huh when u cant even trust your own insurance. My husband does not listen. All he wants to say to me is that I buy you everything you want tonia. But its not enough for you. Those are his words. He always says that any time I have any problems. And it does not matter what it is. I am very greatful for everything. I just want him to listen to me not buy me stuff.

My ex woud not listen to me either, but she also tried to control the illness and me. At end I stayed coop up in a little by myself. and everyone treatments like I was a monster. Joy75 is right marriage counlsing might work you go to a church and it usually free. I tried to get my ex to go but she would not saying I am not sick. She did bring divorce papers to hospital for me to sign that landed mw another week in psych ward. I would try calmly explain how feel when family and him treat you bad. You can always ask jhjm jf still loves you. Good luck.

I asked my husband if he still loved me once. He does... but not the way I want to be. But I also had to admit that I don't love him that way either. Because we really don't know each other that well. Communication helps a lot in this area. I don't really think we know who we are ourselves anymore because we've done so much growing and we haven't actually got to do it together. What, with living day by day life, it does get hard to actually get to know we are as we were growing. I think this is true for a lot of people. Communication has helped us with that and we are trying to get to know ourselves and each other and progress is good, but communication is key. My counselor is helping me with communication skills and it makes a big difference! I hope your able to get through this bump in the road healthier and happier!

I'm glad to hear you are seeing your therapist tomorrow. Marriage counselling is very helpful my husband and I sought help more than once in our 20 yrs married and we are closer now than we've ever been, i'm so sorry you are going through this rough time i hope you and him can communicate better.