Bipolar Support Group

I am new to this whole discussion thing. My husband is bipolar and he has currently been in the hospital due to a suicide attempt. He was released today and won't come home, i don't think they should have released him yet. I don't know what to do or how to feel. I feel so alone and i'm scared. We've been married 6 years now and we have 2 beautiful daughters. Can somebody please help me understand? He seems to be getting worse as time goes on. His meds don't seem to be helping. None of my friends or family can help me, their answer is to leave him, that's not going to happen. I just need to know what to do and how to help him and us.

Hi Princess71,

Sorry for your troubles. I know that you must be a wreck worrying about him. The only thing you can do is tell him you love him and be supportive of him. A suicide attempt means that he was not in a good place in his mind and he probably thought you and the children would be better off without him. I know that I have attempted before and I was not even really thinking about doing it. I just got really upset and added to being manic and depressed at the same time and it happened. I'm 100% better now and its almost a year. Hopefully, your husband will be the same.

Take care of those kids. They need you more than anything. Also take care of yourself. Best of luck, Maria

Thank you, i do tell him I love him all the time, and i know it's not his heart making these decisions. I'm going to schedule him an appointment with his psych dr. To hopefully change his meds. I'm glad that someone out there hears me, thank you again for responding to me.

getting ahold of his psych is a fantastic plan. It sounds like his meds definitely need to be fixed. My counselor told me most suicide attempts are because someone needs change in their life, most often because they feel they can't change their situation themselves.

Be there for him, sit with him in silence, talk about his feelings, rub his back, whatever makes me feel more soothed. If he's up for hearing it, remdind him how much his daughters love him and look up to him as well.

It's hard because his decisions right now are being sent from an uncontrolled part of the brain. Medication is the quickest way to get that under control, and then counseling can help him through the aftermath.

Thank you, it's just getting him home first. He won't come home right now or talk to me. So i'm just giving him the space he needs right now amd hopefully he comes home soon. He is with a friend so i know he's atleast safe for now. I'm just so worried and wish i could somehow reach him.

I do hope he comes home soon. I've read many stories where the partner leaves. Usually in a manic stage. I think the hospital should have kept him longer in my opinion. I hope that he is actually taking his medications. It doesn't sound like they are working very well for him. I'm sorry he left, he must have his reasons. I'm sorry that this has happened. I can tell you love him very much. Giving him space is a good thing. It's good that you know where he is. I'm sure his daughters miss him very much. Remind him of that and that they and you love him. Be there to support him, it helps. I would read up and educate yourself on bipolar also so you have a better understanding of it. Welcome to the group. You will find a lot of support here. Below is another great group you may be interested in with spouses of bipolar people.

http://www.mdjunction.com/spouses-of-bipolar-in-active- relationships